how do you cope with long distance relationships while in university? im finding it really difficult?

Question

I can't seem to focus on anything, don't feel like socialising with the locals and just keep thinking about my other half, but at the same time i dont want to push him away by being too dependant b calling and texting all the time. would it just be best to finish it to save the hassle and distress? I've even thought about quitting uni so its not a good sign

Answer 1

Look do not quit the university. What you both should do is to realize that you both are young, and you are not even being fair to yourself. Just tell your boyfriend that while you are in school you would like to do things to enjoy your college life, and part of that is going to parties and dating other guys. I know he probably is going through the same issues that you are. Then after four years of your school if it is meant to be you both could see each other again, but who knows you might meet someone different and they may appeal to you for the future. You are not even being fair to yourself, while you are in college you do not need to have any type commitments to enjoy your youth and days in college.

Answer 2

You have embarked on a new era in your life ..... take a big step forward into your future with your uni studies.... and a smaller step back in your relationship with your boy-friend (notice I split the word?) ,,,, make him just that ... a boy friend with whom you have a bit of history ..... if you are meant to be a couple then he he will encourage and support you to stay on and finish your studies ... and still be there when you have finished .... you at this moment are so tied up with worrying about him you're threatening your own future ..... and for what .... you might get to the end of your studies and find that really, you've outgrown him without even noticing when this happened .... he might feel so threatened by your education he might finish the relationship for you .... at the end of the day all you can have control and responsibility for is you and your life .... don't waste your life and the opportunity you've been given by worrying about what someone else wants or is going to do ... they have their own control and responsibilities .... ie their life and their future .... if he chooses he wants you and you he, then good luck to you both .... if not .... mark it up to experience like the rest of us .....

Answer 3

i stayed with my boyfriend all through uni, felt miserable for a large chunk of it because of missing him, then he dumped me as soon as we had both finished and moved back home. the lesson learned - do not let any relationship hold you back. if you do stay with him make sure that you do not pass up any opportunities and do not spend all of your time moping because you will only look back on your time at uni regretting the fact that you did not enjoy it as much as you should have. on the other hand, finishing with him may lead to 2/3 months feeling like crap, but then you will have 3 years of fun ahead which i think is a fair trade. do not quit uni whatever you do.

Answer 4

Go and have some fun, and just keep in mind your b/f is probably still doing the same thing

Answer 5

my boyfriend dumped me when i left for uni in september. i like to think it would have worked out, but i knew i would never have quit uni for him. if you dont sociallise now you wont ever catch up. i think END IT before you get too bogged down.

Answer 6

no if you really love each other you sholund give up, he will understand if you have to call him and text him cause you fell lonelly, i promess you he fell the same way

Answer 7

long distance relationships are always hard, but all you have to do is hang in there.

Answer 8

break up because it will never work and if it does ill be surprised