Before I got pregnant, my guy and me were like little bunnies. He truly is the sexiest man on earth to me...and I am still and always have been so attracted to him.
But every since I got pregnant...I have had not desire to have sex, none at all. I am now 15 weeks, and I thought it would change in the 2nd trimester, but it hasnt. I do feel a little more inclined to but I am scared I will hurt the baby. I have a fear that I should do nothing I enjoy becuase if I hurt this baby for an orgasm...I would just die!!! Does that make sense??
I give him BJ's...I love doing that for him...but I know he misses me. I am not sure how to get over my fear??
2006-10-25 04:50:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I understand your fear of hurting the baby, but trust me, I've talked to my doctor and read up on this, and nothing bad will come out of you having sex while pregnant.
In the beginning of my pregnancy I was all over my husband (maybe the fact that we didn't have to use protection helped, haha) but then as I got into my second trimester it kind of slowed down, and I just wasn't turned on to having sex. I think that was because I felt I was getting fat and unattractive, but my husband has always told me otherwise :) Anyways, now that I'm in my third trimester, I want it more than my husband! haha! I gotta have it like 2 times a day at least!
Every woman is different though...you might not want sex now, but might change your mind in the third trimester. Good luck, and remember, it won't hurt the baby!
Congrats and good luck :)
2006-10-25 05:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is so very well cussioned by the womb and the cervix I can assure you that you can have a very healthy sex life. It is in the last 2 weeks or so that sex may become difficult, as orgasms in the woman can cause the commencement of labour, buyt the fetus by then is very viable too. Don't let your husband starve and when the missionary position becomes too divicult use other positions such as 'doggie' position LOL !!! Enjoy your hubbie as much as possible, I hope you are going to breast feed LOL it is always ready and at the correct temp and full of the correct nutrients plus it has the disease fighters in the breast milk plus it is cheaper , bonding with your infant is enhanced PLUS if you breast feed ONLY for the first 6 months your infant will be far less likely to have any allergies too. Not many folks know this - I mean ONLY breast milk ie not even water.
2006-10-25 12:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't hurt the baby by orgasm. S/he's all nestled up in the amniotic fluid that is keeping him/her safe. So it's safe to be little bunnies again.
The reason you don't feel like having sex is because you hormones are going bonkers with the pregnancy. It's normal. Sometimes I was a little nympho and sometimes I didn't even want him to touch me. Just try to relax while you are being a bunny, it'll be okay! :)
2006-10-25 11:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will come back, but I actually had the opposite problem because I had hypermesis. (excessive morning sickness) I think your guy must love getting bjs. Most men dont get many at least that is what my husbands married friends say, and guys really love bjs. I think your guy will understand. I could only have sex and could not give bjs. My guy is glad to have the old me back, but was loving and caring the entire time. Things will get better trust me. I wish you alot of luck with your pregnancy.
2006-10-25 12:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fear is without any basis I suppose. I think there is nothing wrong in having sex during pregnancy. Only thing I feel is no much pressure should be exerted on your tummy. Enjoy without any fear.Nothing will happen to the baby inyour womb. If you have doubt you can consult your doctor or gyneocologist.
2006-10-25 12:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Vetaran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem after my son came, but if it's just fear that they baby will get hurt then don't have that fear.
My doctor asked me one visit if me, and my husband were having sex during my pregnancy, and I answered yes.
She told me that was good, because its another way to excersie your vigina so when the baby comes it will be easier, it's just like when the doctor tell you to go for walks.
If it's your 1st baby then its just you, because I also always thought I couldn't feel him kicking all the time, and took myself to doctors to see if he was still alive. So it's just a fear, and you should get over it soon.
2006-10-25 12:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nicola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. Your fear is understandable but unfounded. Your doctor will tell you wheather it is truly dangerous or not. And once the baby is born, your fear will no longer have basis, so I am sure your sex drive will return. But huney get all you can now. You may have alot of sleepless nights and no time for sex once your baby is born.
2006-10-25 11:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will come back. Don't fear hurting baby from orgasm, you can unless otherwise advised by your doctor.
After baby is born, sex drive is usually low too just because you are so tired/stressed from having a newborn to care for.
2006-10-25 11:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Jenn♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try talking to your husband n finding out what are his feelings about it..whethr he misses u (in that sense) or he feels the need for u..etc.. if he really strongly does, then you 2 must discuss about the pregnancy and the well-being of your baby.. you both dont wanna hurt the baby right.. you have mentioned you are in the 15th week..so you really must see ur doc for advice before having intercourse.
2006-10-25 12:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by kozizi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will come back, I was the same way, and I thought I would never be able to rekinde what we had, but we did. It doesnt happen right after the baby, and it takes some work, but you guys will be alright.
2006-10-25 11:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋