How much is quality time.?

Question

My wife has informed me that I have been neglecting her lately. I work afternoon shift for a local Police Department and I get up almost every morning early, to spend time with her, but there are always chores to be done (get up dog ___, etc. She feels that every minute I'm awake I'm suppose to be joined at the hip with her,holding hands (with is nice), but not all day. She talks about tht she wantd to spend her time with me as well as I with her, but what about the complaining, because her son got a new playstation game that I think is cool. I will play his game about 30 min each day before I get ready for work. Guess who thows a fit? I'm I wrong?

Answer 1

You and my Husband should chat some day...lol, We have the same problem. My Hubby is a very good man that works 3 in the afternon to 2 in the morning. He too likes to be able to relax with his video games. The thing that I always ask him is.."Why cant you relax with me instead of that stupid game' He too says it's only 30 minutes that he gets to relax before going into work...you guys need to really look at the time that you start playing, it's never the 30 minutes that you all claim, it's more like an hour. I don't know about your wife but I know that I get really lonely at night when my Hubby is gone. So what we have done is on his days off we make sure to get out of the house and spend some time together, quality time. We don't have allot of money so this time usually means that we are going out to play pool or Walmart. We leave the kids at home and try to catch up on whats going on.He knows that on his days off he best not go near that video game.. although I try to be fare and give him some space that he needs.

Answer 2

i've learned that the best way to squeeze quality time into a busy schedule is to literally schedule it. quality time is not doing chores, talking about the kids, bills, etc together. it's about doing something together that you both enjoy and involves just the two of you. pick a time when neither of you are busy, or at least make time to have nothing to do so you can spend it doing things like watching a favorite tv show or movie, get out of the house and go on a date, or since you seem to have the morning free, maybe make breakfast in bed or go out for breakfast. take a shower together or just get back in the bed once things are settled to just talk or cuddle for a while. after that time is over then you can do all the other things like playstation, work, etc. because once you've had real quality time then there's no excuse for complaining later.

Answer 3

Sit down and talk this out before it becomes a wedge in the relationship. Plan date nights. . you have responsibilties --your job, home, kids - - sometimes it is easy to get lost in the sauce and you don't realize that you're not putting in that quality time with your mate. I tell my fiance this too - - . he's a busy type and sometimes a whole week will go by and we haven't really had one night where we do something that is "just us" doing some bonding. . make time for it, it is imporant. You always want to stay in sync with each other.

Answer 4

ask her to play playstation game with you, my spouse and I play once a day and it is fun! Sounds like she may need more in her life, like a job or hobby besides you! Go out for a walk with her and have a nice heart to heart and try to figure out how you can both get the happiness you deserve! Good luck.

Answer 5

HOW ABOUT ASKING HER TO PLAY THE GAME WITH YOU, AND PERHAPS PLAY A LITTLE GAME OF SOMETHING ELSE WITH HER, NOT PLAYSTATION EITHER. TAKE HER TO A MOVIE IF YOU HAVE FREE TIME, OR TO DINNER, QUILITY TIME IS TIME THAT YOU BOTH SHARE TOGETHER! TRY IT FOR A WEEK, SEE HOW THINGS CAN CHANGE, IF YOU HAVE TO WALK THE DOG, WALK TOGETHER! PERHAPS PUT A SPECIAL DAY ASIDE JUST FOR THE 2 OF YOU ONCE A MONTH AND ON THAT SAME DAY FOR THE REST OF THE MONTH DO SOMETHING AS A FAMILY.

Answer 6

Here's the thing - everyone has a different level of quality time need. I'm like you - when I'm awake I have things to do - cleaning, shopping, cooking, etc (thank god I'm single).

You deserve persoanl time (i.e the video game thing) and I think she should cut you some slack, personally. But also, evaluate your 'quality' time. If she is pertty needy (sounds like it) then you might need to work on pleasing her by giving her a set amount of one on one.

Answer 7

if you have a lunch break take her out sometime some women can't stand being alone all day while there husband is at work she clearly misses you by her some flowers or something and tell her your sorry you may not be joined at the hip but she is your other half is she not????

Answer 8

you can do chores together. take regular walks together. you can do an alternative method. few days you can play playstation and the rest of the days spend time with your wife. hopefully, this would work

Answer 9

Wow good question. im in a similiar situation with my girl friend right now. hmmm....Honestly i think that you aren't wrong, but this is a guy's opinion. haha. personally if you want her to stop complaining you could i don't know...take her to the movies or on a date something that will suprise her. and give her flowers or something before the date. it's a definite plan.

Answer 10

lol talk with her about it and aske
her this...
if a man yells in the woods and no woman is around to hear it is he still wrong?
if she answers yes she has codependancy issues.
there will be no time limit on quality time as the day only has 24 hours in it.