six and half months pregnant and my husband hasn't touch me sexually and i cant start it my self(dont feel sexy) and he is a very sexual man and i feel that i turn him off then turning him on what can i do
2006-10-25 04:27:57 · 16 answers · asked by sweetlittlerowanandmia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
At six months your belly is much larger and prominent reminder that you are pregnant, carrying a child. I've noticed that a lot of men don't have sex with their wives further on, not because they don't want to. But, because, they don't want to hurt the baby or you. Feel weird about there being a baby during intercourse. Or it may be true that he is not attracted to you. However, if this is a wanted pregnancy it would be unlikely. I would talk to him. It's most likely something that you can work out or reassure him of. Good luck.
2006-10-25 04:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by stillwondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be worried he will hurt the baby or you. Most men feel this way, they are not sure what they can do, and what they can't. You said you can't start it your self, but when men are unsure, they usually wait for the women to make the first move to let them know it is OK. Don't worry about not feeling sexy, we all go through that when we are pregnant. I can pretty much assure you he doesn't feel the same. Most men find their wife's or girlfriends very attractive when they are pregnant. He's probably just scared. Just make a move on him, if he backs off then the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-25 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk. He may be feeling worried that he will hurt you or the baby, or he may be feeling that you are too tired. I had the same problem with my husband and it turned out that after a long conversation...because I was so tired all of the time and feeling "Not so Sexy" that he actually thought that I wasn't interested which in turn made him feel he was "Not so Sexy"! You need to keep the lines of communication open...especially now. After talking, plan a nice romantic "date night" and have some fun!! Good Luck!
2006-10-25 05:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys go through that faze when their wife or girl frend is pregnant. A lot of the time they feel like the woman is not in the mood and they feel they are being selfish if they ask for sex. Thats the case if he is a considerate man in generally. Now some guys just get turned of because their girl is gaining weight and they are use to your original size.
2006-10-25 04:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by black beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband is crazy if he don't find his wife beautiful, allot of pregnant women are beautiful, you shouldn't have to feel that way tell him how you feel ask him what his problem is and why he doesn't find you attractive if he says he does then ask him why he hasn't touched you, and that it is making you feel self conscious and hurt inside, I feel that way but my husband cheers me up cause he still wants to do it all the time I just don't feel like it, I think I am just lazy cause I am only 5 months. But I really think you should express your feelings to him and see what he has to say for making you feel so bad. I am sure you are just as beautiful as before just with a belly added on which inst a glob of fat it is a baby, and even if it were a glob of fat your his wife.
2006-10-25 04:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i may be very worried if I have been you. Is his existence coverage paid up? J/ok. Have a ball. in basic terms in basic terms confirm you have have been given set issues up so which you haven't any longer any appointments for a minimum of a few days. perhaps ask him to take it slowly for the 1st couple of minutes? (After that he will possibly could desire to ask you to take it slowly.) perhaps some positions that don't press on the toddler? Oh, and see if mom (or mom-in-regulation) might decide for to spend a pair of days with the end results of the 1st being pregnant.
2016-10-02 22:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes NOT cheating, maybe hes just sensitive to your condition. Perhaps now that you are showing hes aware of the baby and either he feels awkward about it or hes afraid of hurting it.
If you/he have become self concious about your body, turn down/turn out the lights. Reassure him that he cant hurt the baby, and talk to him about how you feel.
Good Luck
2006-10-25 04:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by agtfos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to speak with him about it. when my wife was prga's i couldnt touch my wife either. it felt weird and i thought i would hurt the baby being so big and all.
She only weighed 55 kgs as opposed to my 119kgs. We chatted we worked through it. its not the end of the world even though it may feel that way. Suprise him and do things to him while he is asleep, im sure you will get the reaction you desire and deserve!
good luck with your new baby!
2006-10-25 04:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him? it could be almsot anything but only he knows the answer. Maybe he does not think it is safe. If this is the case take him along on your next dr. visit and have the dr. explain that it is safe and the baby won't be hurt.
2006-10-25 04:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by blu_drgn25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Is this your first baby?
Don't worry too much.......it is kind of normal especially now that you're showing...it isn't that you don't turn him on...it is just weird....your pregnant and the mother of his child now.
Things will get back to normal.
2006-10-25 04:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋