When it comes to parties or going out i somehow get totally dropped by my friends who don't invite me and then bragg about the party the next day to me. It's worse in the holidays when they go to dinner with my ex (who i dumped because he cheated on me). They always lie about where they're going.
I find it really hard when we do all meet up because i have nothing to say to them while they all have their 'inside jokes'. I have no idea why this is happening but i feel that if i confront them then they won't be my friends and i'll have no one so really i am saying nothing for the sake of convienience. I have other friends that are great but it still gets me down when i'm not invited out.
How can i tell my friends that they're a****without ruining our friendships?
2006-10-25 04:24:54 · 19 answers · asked by sidewinder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know exactly how you feel, honey. I cried my heart out when my so called friends didnt invite me to their birthday party and when they didnt want me to go hang out with them note that I came into the friendship late but we all established what i thought was a good relationship. My heart is really broken. I realize that friends that walk all over you and treat you like **** dont deserve to be yr friends. You have a lot to offer to ppl that will cherish and appreciate you. People that ostrasize you and make you to feel a fool when they discuss the events that occured without you are rude, uncouth and heartless. They have no concern for yr feelings. Do what i am doing, ignore the bastards.
2006-10-25 04:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are not your friends sweetheart, they are exactly what you said, IDIOTS!!!!! With friends like them you certainly do not need any enemies!!!
You need to dump that cult of friends and stick with the ones that are really nice to you!! But whatever you do try not to let them know that it bothers you with not going to the parties and such.Just act as if you had a blast with some other friends while they were out partying and you will see a total change in them. Trust me on this one okay!!!! Good luck to ya !!!
2006-10-25 04:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by littleEfan25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When couples break up, not only do they divvy up the household goods, but the "friends" as well. It sounds as though these people have made their choice and, sorry to say, it doesn't seem to be you.
You say you have other friends who are great. My advice is to concentrate on them and try to forget the others. Please don't allow these people to destroy your self confidence. Besides, if they are discussing events in front of you that they purposely excluded you from, they're intentionally being rude and aren't worthy of you. Let your "ex" have them....sounds like they deserve each other anyway.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 04:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conffronting wi;; probably end the friendship... but it aounds like they are not real friends to start with... get with another group of friends that respect you and want you to be a part of the group... and once you've been away from the fist group for a while you will wonder what you saw in them to start eith and maybe they may come to you and wan to know why you left... tell them you felt like an outsider and you knew it was time to move on to bigger and better things... say in all happy and walk off... hope this helps!!!
2006-10-25 04:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me something, why do u bother with these people? If they really were ur frenz, wudn't they ask u out with them too?Wudn;t u b a part of their "inside jokes"? I think ur not close to these ppl at all.What u need to do, is hang out with ppl who actually care abt u.
Try talking to these ppl in a non-confrontational manner.Explain to them how their behaviour makes u feel, if they still dont change, then find urself new frenz.
2006-10-25 04:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say drop them now before they continue to mislead you and treat unfairly, im in a similar situation it seems as though nowadays its harder to have real true and good friends. Tell them that you will not stand for being treated like this because your better than that. You will meet true friends at the right time. If you ever wanna talk here's my e-mail its david_francis_3@hotmail.co.uk
2006-10-25 04:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by young man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like real friends if they aren't inviting you to do stuff. If they don't invite you invite some other friends to do stuff with you and then they will want to be your friend again. Just get some new friends.
2006-10-25 05:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm lost here........I don't see you being THEIR friend.
Their leaving you out, not inviting you, they lie about where they have been.
It's time you put more effort into these other friends you have.
Out with the old and in with the new.
2006-10-25 04:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't your friends if they are acting like that! Ecpecially if they hang out with your ex who cheated on yoU! Your real friends would never speak to a guy like that again! You deserve better!
2006-10-25 04:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me remind you of a saying that says: show me your friend(s) and I'll tell you the kind of a person you are. Also, it is often said that "birds of the same feathers flock together". Think about it.
2006-10-25 04:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋