Okay, so my man broke up with his girl of 6 years and the next day, he was in my bed. He wasn't happy the last 2 years with her and ended up taking a job in another state (which is where he met me) so we got to know each other and bam, a month later, he broke up with her and is now with me. We've been together for 6 months now. All my insecurities, all my worries, all my trust issues, lies within him jumping into this so quickly with me. I KNOW! I did it too! But I fell in love with him! We're learning each other still, and trying to get through the 'hump' of not knowing if you can trust each other thing, so in turn, I tell myself to give trust to him and he'll give it back to me. Is that right? I just have to learn to trust him! He's with me now. I shouldn't ruin a good thing. We met for a reason. I believe. But she clouds my mind and I'm afraid that he'll regret leaving her one day and hurt me....Why can't I just suck it up and be happy? Words of wisdom/advice...please
2006-10-25 04:16:02 · 12 answers · asked by inlovewow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just suck it up... if he broke up with her for u, he must really like u or he wouldnt of called it quits with her!!!! just dont think about will he leave me or go back to her. just as long u can make him feel good around u then u have nothing to worry about, show him that u trust him that is a real big plus for u!!!! if it doesnt work then im sorry but u just have to go day by day dont worry about his past anymore, he's with u now
2006-10-25 04:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't anything new. Most people go through something like this.
But, you have to remember, that 'yes, you have him, he has you' you have to put this girl behind you. Yes he may turn around and want her back, he may turn around and only want you.
You can't predict the future.. You can only live one day at a time, and stop trying to look ahead.. what happens happens.. you can't do anything about it. So just enjoy what you have for now in this season, there is a time for everything. A time to enjoy and a time to go on, etc. I'm sure you know all that. I don't need to tell you.
if he goes back, he wasn't meant to be.. and it's best that that happens cause there is no sense in either one of you being unhappy. there is more men where he came from.
Just ENJOY for now.
2006-10-25 04:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't totally clear on one point, so maybe you are not either. While you do say that he was unhappy with his ex for the last 2 years, you do not say whether you were such a soft, tempting place to land that you were a major contributing factor to the demise of his relationship with her. I believe your lack of trust comes from an annoying question in the back of your mind: "Is he the type of man who leaves a relationship when the going gets tough instead of trying to work it out?" If so, it bodes ill for your future. Have a talk with him and resolve this question in your own mind.
2006-10-25 04:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
--\ You are sort of a mess. Why are you chasing something that belongs to someone else? What is wrong with you? My advice to you: Go to night school and take some English classes. Your sentence structure is that of a 3rd grade drop-out. Maybe while you're are in class learning how to create grammatically correct sentences you will meet a girl who is equally as illiterate as you are. It could be true love and you won't have to leech onto a fat married woman. Good luck dude!
2016-03-28 07:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, 6 months is way to early to be asking this
question. yes, wait it out and if in another couple months you still are not happy
than talk to him, ask him if he still
has feeling for the other girl, he was with her for 6 years, you cant just stop loving someone
that fast. give him some time to love only you.
2006-10-25 04:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by girl101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left her before he met you you stand a better change of building a solid relationship, but he was cheating on her to be with you, then he'll cheat on you to be with another.
2006-10-25 04:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him know how you feel and no doubt he will guess it will eventually come true, so bury it and enjoy here and now
2006-10-25 04:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i agree. you were a rebond chick
but he's feeling may have changed by now and i'm sure he feels the same way about you that you feel about him.
2006-10-25 04:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by A New Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried!! If he cheated on her to be with you then he'll cheat on you to be with the next!!
2006-10-25 04:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they do with you, they'll do to you
2006-10-25 04:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋