he's a good friend and i dont want to lose that but i think i might have to. i gave him my no as he said he might be able to give me a job in one of his shops, i'm a uni student and thought the income would be usefull. its gonna sound naive but i really didnt think he'd say the things he did, he knows and gets on well with my boyfriend and i know hes married with children and about 20 yrs older than me what shall i do??
2006-10-25 04:08:27 · 28 answers · asked by alwaysquietones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get right to the point with him, it's the only way he'll take you seriously. Tell him that you are commited to your b/f and that you are uncomfortable with some of the txts he sends. Tell him you don't think it's appropriate for a married man. You have to be honest with him. He'll respect you for this in the future. If he gets mad...oh well, he's the one at fault here not you and he will get over it if he's a real friend. If not then you know what his intentions were.
2006-10-25 04:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is this a question though? You have to face the truth. This man has a wife and he is being deceptive towards her by texting you with suggestive texts. Is a job more important that your self respect. Can this man ever be trusted or respected by you when you know he is being deceptive to his wife bye texting a young woman who could be the same age as his daughter or son? I think you have to give your self a reality check. Do you want to be a player in his deception? Would a really good friend put you in this situation? Why don't you tell your boyfriend? Do you like secrets as well? Who is responsible for what happens with this man? Who will pick up the pieces if the wife children and your boyfriend are hurt? Will you sort it out by revealing the truth to your boyfriend? Will you carry on by using the job to justify your actions?
2006-10-25 04:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I think you should definately either txt or speak to him about it. Some blokes see the wierdest things as a come on so just put him straight as nicely as you can. It's really cheap to swap your sim card if he doesn't take the hint. If you have a serious long term relationship with your boyfriend it's best to tell him, as you wouldn't want this affecting your relationship. A lot of people "get on well" with other people without actually knowing anything about them. I'm sure your boyfriend would rather know about this bloke now! As for the job - look elsewhere - there's plenty of stuff around if you look hard enough and you don't want the hastle of this creep!
2006-10-25 04:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him plainly, the only person you want to hear that kind of talk from is from your boyfriend, not an old married man with children. Tell him he's out of place and to lose your phone number immediately.
Send the message in a text if you want. If he doesn't get the point, tell your boyfriend and/or forward the messages to his wife and see what happens.
2006-10-25 04:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl that married guy is bad news. I wouldn't be surprised he ends up raping you. He obviously sounds like that kind of guy. First, before telling your boyfriend, tell your girl friends and see what they think, because if you're not sure how your boyfriend is gonna react he may call you a skank or he may support you. GOOD LUCK!
By the way you're not a skank you are a beautiful strong independant woman!
2006-10-25 04:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your partner, that his man is sending you texts and that it's upsetting you. Be open with him-, make it clear that you don't want or encourage this man's attentions, tell him how this is making you feel. Hiding this from him could incriminate you and you have nothing to hide anyway, none of this is your fault somebody else is doing it to you.
First, make it very clear and firmly express to this rude person that what he is doing is inappropriate and is making you unhappy and uncomfortable and you wish it to stop. Tell him that you have no wish to lose his friendship but that if this continues you will assume that he is happy to keep upsetting you and that he can be no kind of friend.
If it continues after this cease contact with him and block his number from your phone. You can take control of this situation but you have to make it very clear that you won't tolerate this any further.
good luck
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2006-10-25 04:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell your boyfriend and think very carefully about accepting any job off him if he offers!!!! People like him normally carry this on in the workplace and if he gets away with it now then he knows he will if you work for him.Your boyfriend will be glad you are being honest with him and then will help you.Its easier when you have support believe me....GOOD LUCK
2006-10-25 04:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Clare B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend, secrets have a way of coming out and you don't want him to think that some thinks going on between you.
Tell him that you don't like the things he texts you and he can make suggestions of how to deal with it.
I would also suggest that you try and get your number changed or his blocked. your phone provider can help you with that, there number will be on your bill or try 118 118 or similar.
2006-10-25 04:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How suggestive are they? Does he talk about your knickers and what you'd be like in the sack, or is it stuff like "If only I weren't married....."? If you don't like it just tell him you're not comfortable with it - if he's a true friend he'll understand. If he's using the friendship to try to get you into bed then you're better off without him.
2006-10-25 04:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the words 'I'm not happy with the texts you're sending so I want them to stop NOW and if you don't I will tell your wife and my boyfriend'. If he's a real friend (and one worth having) he will understand - if he doesn't you don't need him in your life.
2006-10-25 04:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by geegee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋