What are the signs that shows that you don't love your husband anymore?
2006-10-25 04:04:37 · 19 answers · asked by Tired 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a person that needs to have something to look forward to. I knew I didn't love my husband anymore when those plans never invloved him and the thought of involving him made it unappealing to me. If you can still picture your future together and be satisfied with what you see you still have a chance.
2006-10-25 04:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by me_me625 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. Its hard to tell for sure. Do you feel relieved when he leaves you alone? Like goes out without you? Do you dislike his touch? Do you still sleep in the same bed? Do you feel dread when you get home and realize he's home also? That's what told me before I divorced my husband of ten years. He's happily remarried and we are decent friends now, and I'm engaged. Its not fair to stay in a relationship where you don't love the other person anymore, especially if they really want to be loved. If you think you don't love him anymore, you probably don't and you would owe it to the two of you to find real and true love. Its out there!
You don't tell your whole story, or much at all, actually. Perhaps you are just going through one of the down phases of marriage? Its not always romance and getting along, there are storms to weather!
Be strong and follow your heart.
2006-10-25 04:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your name says it all. It's not lack of love. . . it's lack of time and intimancy. When people get tired they give up. Then they confuse that with lack of love (until they leave and realize it was the dumbest thing they have done). You and your husband need to set aside time for yourselves. . . ALONE. If that means taking unpaid leave from your job you do it. If that means getting a babysitter you do it. WHATEVER IT TAKES!! Set aside a date night once a week (it doesn't have to be expensive. . . just a coffee or a coke away from the house for 2-3 hours with NOTHING on the ajenda PERIOD.
You don't invest yourself into a marriage and walk away when you get tired. You change things. You rearrange your priorities.
You get counseling if needed. Walking away from a marriage is extremely hurtful to yourself (not to mention your spouse). The saying is true, "you never know what you had until it's gone".
Work this out. . . you wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't want to. . . work it out with your husband. You will thank me later for this advice.
2006-10-25 04:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be careful about this one. You're not looking for an excuse to get a divorce, are you?
In a marriage (or any relationship for that matter) people grow closer, then apart for a while, then closer again....it's rather cyclic. Moreover, when the honeymoon period is over, some people mistakenly think that the love is gone.
One more thought....have you considered that love is more an action than an emotion? It's all about how you treat the other person, as much as how you feel about them.
2006-10-25 04:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you feel like you don't then thats probably a good sign. Although it is perfectly normal to stray a bit and feel out of love. Marriage is hard work. But deep in your heart you should know. Go with your gut feeling. You must remember what it was like when you fell in love, you should still have those feelings. Maybe not as strong though. Good luck to you.
2006-10-25 04:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by upsnowgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you quit doing the little things that matter.
A touch or a smile, a little wink.
When you dont give a f*ck what he eats for supper or if he has any clean underwear.
The opposite of love is not hate.
It's not caring anymore.
2006-10-25 04:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by cici 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you ask the question that is a sign something is going on.
2006-10-25 04:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you are close to doing an Elaine Bobbit on your husband, you should consider things pretty much over.
2006-10-25 04:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u find yourself asking questions like why am i with him? do i love him? Aslo you lose interest in talking ot him and being iwth him. When he is gone you dont miss him you just want to go out and talk with otehr men. U find yourself looking at other men more than usual.
2006-10-25 04:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by ricoville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you hate every little teeny tiny thing he says, does, or touches....when he can do nothing right...
Ask yourself what happened? You used to think he hung the moon. Consider counseling. Consider asking for God's help.
2006-10-25 04:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋