I sometime cheat on my wife. do i formalise my relationship with my girlfriend instead of continue to cheat on my wife. she did not know yet, but my girlfriend does not mind. please advise.
2006-10-25 03:53:37 · 13 answers · asked by BEN M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are cheating on your wife and already have a girlfriend, do your wife a favor and end the marriage now. I would suggest that you get COUPLES counseling but if you are already to this point with a girlfriend, it doesn't seem like you want to change your ways and be faithful to your wife. You both deserve to be happy. Your wife deserves the chance to find a man who will love and be faithful to her. You deserve the chance to discover why you feel the need to be unfaithful to your wife after so many years. I think you should get counseling yourself before you end up marrying this girlfriend. If not, I fear that you will end up cheating on her, too and the cycle will continue. It's not the WOMEN, it's YOU. Please get the help you need so you can feel good about yourself. I wish you the best for your future whatever decision you make.
2006-10-25 04:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by mychemicalromancelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much fun are you to live with? I was once married to a man like you and you were no picnic! If you bothered to put all that effort of dating toward your wife, you may not be having this problem. You made vows, either stand behind them or be man enough to stop lying to your wife. She deserves to be happy too. If you think she doesn't know what is going on, you are wrong. Stand up!
2006-10-25 04:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a boob. So is your girlfriend if she knows you are cheating on your wife and doesn't care. If she used her head she would see that you don't mind cheating on your wife to be with her and you probably wouldn't mind cheating on her after you get bored with her too.
Do yourself a big favor and start thinking with your big head, not your c o c k head and straighten out. Cut off the relationship with your girlfriend and confess and apologize to your wife.
2006-10-25 04:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife, tell her how you feel. Maybe the two of you need to have some time just for the two of you...try new things...stop seeing your girlfriend for awhile and see if that helps. if you have feelings, be them physical or emotional for another person and continue to act on them, you are not going to truly know what could happen with your wife...you took vows with her, you should tell her how you feel before your affair goes any farther...and your girlfriend should mind that you are married
2006-10-25 03:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by plegue4936 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are no longer interested in putting effort into your marriage, then you have an obligation to your wife to be honest, to tell her that you want a separation and divorce.
Then, and only then, should you be continuing a relationship with your girlfriend.
2006-10-25 03:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok! by marrying a secod wife, do you mean by islamic law, or traditionally? If you're not happy wth your wife then end it . You can't have your cake and eat it too!! Besides she probably knows whats up by now. you may as well tell your wife- let her get on with her life and just be happy with your girlfriend!
Hope this helps.
2006-10-25 04:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by sassedangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have stayed single, you were not ready to be married, Why are you messing up your wife"s life.? She certainly does not need a man who can not be faithful. You are not putting anything in this marriage, that is why you are not getting any thing, or excitement out of it. To have a successful marriage, you have to work at it, like anything else!
2006-10-25 04:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needed help, there is no excuse for cheating. Would you want it done to you? How would you feel if it was her with another man? Hiding it from you? Put your self in her shoes man and think about what you are doing.
2006-10-25 03:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by KEL971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was too-you know in your a heart your a low life dirt bag-and you say you love your wife-be honest and let Jesus forgive your sins, and as Revelation 3vs19&20 says- come into your heart and become your friend-amen -- david in Jesus amazing grace
2006-10-25 03:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very selfish and immature. If your relationship is boring, it's because of you and your lack of commitment to make it fun. Your wife should divorce you - immediately. Grow up.
2006-10-25 03:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋