I have a friend who is so quick to jugdge people and assume she knows everything about them before she knows them. I hate it! Do you do the same thing? Do you think its right?
2006-10-25 03:50:26 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really try not to but I sometimes do.. I have to say I have been wrong in the past about people I have meet and was glad I got to know them better or I would have really missed out on some good friends..
2006-10-25 03:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by lisa_sonydadc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do form an impression of someone when I first meet them. This is a natural function that helped early man to distinguish between a friend and a foe. We have that sort of hard-wired into our brains, so, yes, it's natural to judge people because of this. What makes us civilized is that we recognize we do this and reserve final judgement until we have facts to back up our intuition. I have, however, found that I am rarely wrong in my initial impressions. I have had the occasional surprise, but nobody bats a thousand with intuition. But usually, a "gut" feeling is correct. An interesting point, when someone makes you uncomfortable, it's better to err on the side of caution. Get away from the situation, make sure you aren't alone, that sort of thing. At least until you know more about the person for certain. Your insticts have been passed down as a survival tactic. Don't ignore them, but don't base everything you know about someone on them either. Be cautious, stay safe, but keep an open mind when you are safe. :) That probably was WAY more info than you needed. Good journeys.
2006-10-25 03:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To an extent I do, but I call it a combination of first impressions and instinct. I have been proven wrong and I believe people have been proven wrong about me as well. However, some people send me in different directions. If I meet a very nice and sweet person, I mimic that behavior too. If I meet someone who tries to hard to be cool or something, I tend to get very quiet and reserved around them. It's all a matter of the situation. Some people call it judging but I think it's part of our survival tactics.
PS. Your friend will mature and learn how wrong she is. Just give her time and for now, encourage her to work with FBI Profiling if she thinks she's so good!
2006-10-25 03:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is my biggest fault. I will meet a person for the first time and prejudge them before I get to know them. I'm sure I have missed out knowing some very nice people because of my quick judgment. But on the other hand, I have discovered that I have saved myself some heartache, because my judgment was correct. So I guess you win some and lose some attitude works for me. Great question, I would judge you as a very intuitive person.
2006-10-25 03:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Sometimes first impressions can be misleading and misinterpreted. I don't think it is right at ALL to judge someone before you get to know them. Not everyone is a fashion model or football star but they might be the most fascinating, awesome person you ever met if you give them the chance! YOU are a terrific person yourself to recognize that you should give people a chance. Tell your friend that you can't judge a book by its cover!
2006-10-25 03:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by mychemicalromancelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm somewhat like that. I don't mean to judge people but I guess it's more like I get an instant vibe about them. It comes from being screwed over by people. It's like a defense mechanism. I think age has a lot to do with it. I'm 40 and have learned not to be so trusting and open minded (I was extreme).
The other thing is, if your friend is being nasty without knowing the person, that's wrong.
2006-10-25 03:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by sandy_in_bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't judge anyone when I meet that person for the very first time. But, I do look at their appearance- the way that person dresses and good personal hygiene. I get to know people first before I decide if I want this person to be a part of my life or not.
2006-10-25 03:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a pretty good "judge of character". In otherwords, I can usually tell what kind of personality a person has by meeting them for the first time. As for knowing everything about them, no..I don't. There is nothing wrong with feeling out someone's personality. That way it gives you the desire to get to know them any further or not.
2006-10-25 03:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do and you also do but maybe you are not conscious of it,Its an animal thing having to do with self preservation. So basically you want to know if the individual you meet is "safe" ie will not harm you. All the other features are modified by "civilization" thus you judge by the clothes ,posh language etc, and quite often by the fact that the individual is not trying to impress you
2006-10-25 04:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No everyone needs a chance to show who they are. Its not fair to judge someone by a quick look. thats like judging a book by its cover. You wont know if the books any good (or bad) if you dont look on the inside. Some people do this though and its just something this friend of yours is going to have to get over. She'll soon realize when she judges someone so quick and actually finds out who they really are, that she was wrong to judge them like that.
dont worry otherwise. just go with your instinct. she'll get over it.
2006-10-25 03:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by ice hcky rulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋