How to get over a miscarriage.?

Question

I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in May.
I thought I was doing okay with it until this month. (I would have been due Nov 24th).
Has anyone else been through this? I find myself crying alot or waking up crying. I know I should feel lucky to have my daughter(shes 3) but I feel like Ive let her and my Fiance down by losing this baby.
Im so scared itll happen again..I have Lupus Anticoagulant and I know Im at higher risk of miscarriages. Can anyone tell me how they coped with losing their pregnancies.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your miscarriage. I had one 4 years ago. They are no fun.

It is a heart breaking deal. Although no words that I can say will help you in making you feel better. I could say that the baby is in a safe place now, and time will heal your wounds, I know from personal experience that those words are not comforting. I wish I could be of better help. *HUGS*

Answer 2

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks before my 1st child 10 years ago. I went into depression. I would cry all the time. My husband was in his last year of medical school, too, so I was alone a lot. It was really hard.

Seek help. This is a common, normal reaction to a loss. You have not let anyone down. It wasn't your fault. Let me repeat that because I want you to really hear it - IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT. It's understandable to be scared that it will happen again, but being at higher risk doesn't mean it WILL happen again.

My sister-in-law lost her 2nd baby at 7.5 months. She had to deliver the still-born. She and her husband elected not to have an autopsy done so they don't know what happened. They have since gone on to have a 2nd daughter and another son (the one they lost was a son).

Don't lose hope. Cherish your daughter and your fiance. Let them know how much you love them and need them right now. You will make it through this and, God willing, you will have another child.

Answer 3

I know how u feel and im sorry for ur loss. It is never easy to get over something like that and u will never be completely over it but im sure u will feel back to normal soon. I had a miscarriage in october 2 yrs ago. I was pregnant with twins and lost both of them. I carried them for a few weeks after they passed until I miscarried naturally. One passed away at 7 weeks and the other at 8 weeks. It was sooo hard to find out that I miscarried twins cause I didnt even know there were two in there. I cried and cried and felt horrible. I had a 3 yr old daughter at the time who is now 5. 2 months after the miscarriage I got pregnant again because I knew I shouldnt live in the past and that my babies are safe in Gods hands even though they were not born. I now have a 1 yr old son. I prayed a lot and tried doing things to get my mind off of the miscarriage. Praying helps and just think about the good times and the future. U cannot dwell in the past especially having a family that needs u now..I know its hard but it will pass. Just because u had that miscarriage does not mean u will have another. Many women go on to have lots of healthy babies after miscarriages. With your condition it is said to have an increased risk of certain things associated with pregnancy but just pray about it and be positive. U will have another healthy baby,dont worry. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I have Lupus anticoagulant as well, and miscarried a baby at 6 1/2 months. I understand perfectly what you are going through. If you would like to email me, i could give you some background on myself and how I managed to cope with this. I never "got over it" so to speak, I learned to live with it, and I think that is what helps the most.

For the individual who said it helped her to remember that her baby would not have been born healthy or normal. That doesn;t work in the case of those of us who have had miscarriages due to lupus anti coagulant. Are babies don;t miscarry due to fetal abnormalities.

Please email me, I want to help you if I can.

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Answer 5

I had a miscarriage, and then a toddler no longer long after, then yet another miscarriage. pondering i became informed i'd possibly on no account get pregnant, I seen that one a blessing. 2 years later i flow pregnant returned, and we had fun and concept we would possibly on no account get pregnant returned. Then #3 became born 18 months after #2...WOW! Then #4 became 15 months after #3, then 18 months later #5....we began questioning it became some variety of cosmic shaggy dog tale! #6 became born 2 years after #5, and selection seven (we call her seven of 7) became born 2 years after #6. My SIL additionally confronted numerous miscarriages, 4 or 5 i think of, she stopped telling us after a on an identical time as. She have been given pregnant approximately ten years in the past nevertheless, and then popped out 5 in ten years. So we are the two quite happy with our little advantages. i'm sorry to your loss, i do no longer comprehend what else to enable you comprehend different than to maintain your hopes up. I on no account concept i may be so blessed, and that i bear in recommendations those days of dread, each month of praying. We have been entire nuts for the time of our pregnancies, quite on condition that all of our miscarriages have been after 12 weeks...far into the trimester of 'risk-free practices'.

Answer 6

first of all i am so sorry u have been through that i myself have had 2 and u have to try and be strong for ur baby girl i have a lovely son who is now 4 but on the side of u, u have to take time out to grieve for the baby u lost

i had counselling which helped me a lot and do not feel like u have let anyone down for what u have been through it is no ones fault what happened if u need to talk more u can email me

but i think that u have not taken enough time out for urself after what happened i had to get away for a few days to get my headb together after what happened but trust me u will get through it and the best part is trying for another baby

hope u are ok

Answer 7

i know it hurts its hard i know i have had 3miscarriages . with time it will ease a little just keep in mind when you feel like crying that its OK to cry but also keep in mind that you are lucky to have a child there are so many women out there that wish they could even have that one baby .your a very lucky person love your child and with time god will bless you with another one things always happen for a reason and we should never ask god why he knows what he dose and when he will do .....so you shouldn't feel like if it was your fault or any one else or that you let your family down getting pregnant and having the baby is not a class in witch you can fail a grade or some thing . things just happen ...........but always keep in mind that you can always try again ..........good luck

Answer 8

im sorry for what your going through! i had a miscarriage about six months ago, i was 8 weeks pregnant! it was a bad time for me and now stil feel the urge to have a baby so much, though im still very young and think god had other plan, so there was a reason god did not you to have that child at that moment. when the time is right you wil have another baby!

you did not let any one down, dont ever think that!

keep weel!

Answer 9

Sorry for your loss, I recently had one mid Sept. so I definitely know what your going through. I wasn't even thinking about miscarrying and it happened to me. I really wanted this baby, I still think about how far long I would have been and yes it does hurt. I would love to get pg again and then I'll know to be more careful about what I do with my body.

Answer 10

While the loss of a pregnancy is always sad, I managed to get through two by realizing that the pregnancy more than likely would have not produced a healthy baby.

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