A friend of mine has recently been spending a lot of time with me, we live together. We do just about everything together and we go out of town almost every weekend together. So recently she asked me if I would go out of town with her and I said sure why not. But one thing that puzzles me is the fact that she has a boyfriend! She broke up with him and they are trying it again. And she told me part of the reason for the first break up was because she did'nt spend time with him, but she's back with him and they're still not spending any time. She only sees once a month and they have a lot of free time. I told her "i'm not meaning to pry but I don't understand why your not spending time with your boyfriend when it was your decision to start over, me and you are always going places" she responds right now i'm doing what I wanna do. But if he did'nt do anything wrong, would it make sense to treat him this way?
2006-10-25 03:44:52 · 6 answers · asked by datgagirl87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't be rude..the reason i'm asking is because this seems weird, most people including me would spend more time with their mate and not their friend....I think there is more to her situation (on his part) its not my business to know what that is anyway
2006-10-25 03:46:08 · update #1
It's apparent that you are a true friend, worrying about her and her relationship. What you may not see, is that she needs you to lean on and enjoys your companionship more than anything right now. True friends sometimes value the time together over family and relationships. Accept the fact that you guys are almost in a relationship of sorts, enjoy the time together. Someday she or yourself will get involved with someone else, and then you will miss her dearly or she will miss you. Good luck.
2006-10-25 03:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may just like the idea of having a boyfriend, someone there for her, cause she may not want to be alone. It doesn't mean she likes/loves him, and that's why she is spending time with you.
2006-10-25 10:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is just be her friend. Take it as it comes....there is probably something underlying with why she's spending more time with you. If you enjoy her company, don't worry about it
2006-10-25 10:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by sandy_in_bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey yuo are well informed and know what is expexted in a relationship .Find yourself a good boy friend and let them fight their own battles.
2006-10-25 10:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's using you and her bf. Don't let yourself be used.
2006-10-25 10:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, doesn't make any sense to be with a friend more than with your SO.
2006-10-25 10:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋