She's always at least an hour late and I don't know how to deal with this. I really don't think this is how to treat a friend. Not only that, but when friend of hers turned up at her house whilst I was there, she spent half an hour with her at the front door and just left me sitting there on my own in her sitting room.
2006-10-25 03:43:39 · 29 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Before we left her house to go out, she said to me, "Come on, then" - like I was a dog or something.
2006-10-25 03:50:32 · update #1
Well, does your friend have any idea of how her behaviour is making you feel? If not, perhaps now is the time to tell her.
It could be possible that she is incredibly insensitive and has no idea that what she is doing is making you feel undervalued. You must talk to her about this, and tell her that when she does these things you feel upset. Perhaps you should stress to her that it's her behaviour and not her personally that is distressing you.
if she cares about you she will not want to make you feel this way and will listen to what you have to say.
it does all sound a little rude and selfish to me, if she does not mend her ways, there are probably other people that you could spend your valuable time with.
Somebody who is your friend would never want to be the source of your unhappiness, if she doesn't take your feeling seriously then I think you have to question whether you have a real friend here or not? The choice is always yours, you do not have to spend your time with her if she continues to hurt you, but if i were you i would talk to her about it and at least give her a chance to make amends
take care
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2006-10-25 03:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to deal with it is to ask her "why she thinks your time is so worthless??" - her response will probably be, that she is busy and you should be understanding. If she gets better - great, if she continues the behavior and you still want to keep the relationship try the following:
Make plans to meet at a certain time. If she is not there within 15 minutes of the planned time, then continue on without her and just have fun on your own or with other people. If she complains, tell her you waited, but needed to do other things as well.
2006-10-25 03:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by majorbolex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a control freak. Mine is the same way, and if I gave her the opportunity, she'd try to run our lives too. The only thing you can do with these types of people is to take away control. Don't ever live with her and don't ever let her babysit for you full time. Keep her at a distance. Don't call her up when you need things, figure it out on your own. Don't ask her for favors or for help. Basically keep her role as the grandma who you take your son to visit occasionally. I turned down my mom's offer to keep my daugher when I went back to work, we chose a daycare. I did not want her attempting to run our lives. I knew it would stress me out. She would have tried to be the mother to my baby and that was the last thing I wanted.
2016-05-22 12:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you plan something with this friend just plan on meeting an hour earlier than what you really want to meet. That way when you get there at the time you really want to meet your friend will be there. As for the front door deal, tell her you thought it was rude or maybe just try doing it to her sometime.
2006-10-25 03:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is really bothering you a lot. She shows up late (at least 1 hour) and leaves you hanging while she is talking to another friend. This issue needs to be addressed by you. Talk to your friend and tell her the truth and nothing but the truth. She might not even realize that her being late and leaving you hanging is eating you up inside. Once you've addressed the issue with her, you'll feel so much better. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-10-25 03:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is always late....and I mean all the time. And not just with me but even with her husband and family too. So we decided that when ever we are to go somewhere or if she and I make plans, then I lie to her about the time.....If we have to be somewhere at 9 then I will tell her the time is 8. That way we are on time or at least closer. Good Luck !!!!
2006-10-25 03:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is rude and selfish so the only way to combat that is to do like she does. Next time you have plans and she is late just dont answer the door. Later on tell her you couldn't wait for her anymore. So this way she will be inconvenienced driving over and she can see how it feels. Next time she leaves you sitting waiting for her just get up, grab your stuff and leave. Tell her you didn't come there to sit in her house alone.
2006-10-25 03:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a person who is habitually 15 minutes late to EVERYTHING I don't know that she's doing it to be hurtful to you. If she treats you like crap all the time and shows never shows any respect, then you should probably sit her down and have a talk. If she doesn't like it, then ditch her. Lots of friends out there just waiting to happen.
2006-10-25 03:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Minuet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a selfish friend. Tell her to come an hr before you want to go out, that way she can really be on time, without her knowing it. As for the waiting thing, you should really tell her. My best friend does that to me all the time, but after we talked, it got a lot better.
2006-10-25 03:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound a very good friend. but you could try inviting her to come where ever you go an hour early? then she would arive ontime. the other problem is a dilemma, you coudl try going to talk with her friend too, or just tell her when she does this you get bord and ask her why she doesnt invite you in. if she turns hostile, she not worth the hastle!
2006-10-25 03:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋