Ive been married for a few years. And I am happy with my husband. ive never not been. My problem is I have a crush on a guy at work. Its not like a "I wanna %#^#$$$% him" type crush it's more of a I just want to see what a kiss from him would feel like. Thats it. I know it's bad with me being married and all, and I will never do anything to hurt my husband, but this is the only guy OTHER than my husband whom ive ever been attracted to. Ive been with him for over 6 years. I dont want people to get the image that im a slut or anything. But how can I get over this without letteing either guy know about it.
2006-10-25 03:43:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't even think about the other guy and do whatever you can to not see him.
You know how people "visualize" a goal before they start going after it? It's the same thing. Don't visualize anything. If there's something amiss in your marriage, do what you can to get it back. Divorce & cheating are absolutely horrible for everyone involved. There's a couple of books out that address alot of issues. One is called:
For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn
It is so good....there is also one "For men only" that may also help. Crushes aren't worth it....they will crush your life.
2006-10-25 04:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by megmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if ur already happy with ur husband, y do u care about a kiss from the other guy? the smallest kiss can ruin it all. u will have neither one of the men if u kiss. it's considered *cheating* if ur with someone else and if ur already married, the guy u have a crush on might get a bad feeling about u...don't do it, just let it go!
Enjoy kisses from ur husband not ur crush!
2006-10-25 03:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by bladebreakers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not even think of what a kiss from could be like!
Everyone has a crush, but u just have to control your slef and let go!
I Dont know how many crushes I have had in life! But I let it all go!
2006-10-25 03:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by Geolove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cherish the excitement of the crush. It is perfectly normal to be attracted to other people while married. When you act on it is when you must start to question your relationship. Fantasies are exciting because they are just that. Reality has a way of ruining things way too often.
2006-10-25 03:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by noambition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, until you ACT on a fantasy, it's just a fantasy. I say, enjoy it and stop worrying about what others think. It's ok to have a fantasy about someone other than your husband, just as long as you keep it to yourself. It's very normal and natural and if anyone tells you different, they are lying. Besides, the fantasy sort of reves up your personal life with your hubby. It means...you are not dead!!!! ENJOY ! Godloveya.
2006-10-25 03:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a "normal" itch to see others...while you're committed to your relationship with your husband, you know that there is more out there that might be fun to play with. Just realize that playing with fire is a good way to burn yourself and everything you hold dear. I would let it go if you can...and focus that same attention back on your husband!
2006-10-25 03:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets crushes on people its normal. Just don't mess up what you have..if your husband is not satisfying you anymore or anything have a talk with him.
2006-10-25 03:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked, so i gotta tell you straight. You ALREADY are hurting your husband, whether he knows it or not. You are ALREADY damaging your marriage.
And, don't kid yourself....kissing is the beginning...then you will wonder about other things...naturally.
Pray for strength to overcome the power of the devil. He is wrestling for your soul.
God bless you.
2006-10-25 05:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what you don't do cheat.A kiss leads to touching and eventually sex.You should tell your husband remember for better or worse.
2006-10-25 04:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce..marry a midget...have some kids then move to Alaska..im tellin you..it's great. You'll have fun.
2006-10-25 03:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by Sara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋