i love him alot and we have kids that are very, very close to us that we cherish.
2006-10-25 03:30:20 · 25 answers · asked by Allison W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is an abuser and your an enabler-get real and let Jesus in your heart if you havent already and get true love from above and then deal with it- sayin -I feel hurt when you---- david in Jesus amazing grace
2006-10-25 03:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to confront him about this!! Explain to him that you saw the picture, so he can't deny anything, and then let him know that this has shaken the foundation of your marriage right down to its core, and also let him know up front that you're probably not going to be able to trust him for awhile. Then, I'm sorry because I know you love him and your kids are everything to you, but you probably should suggest a separation to clear your head for a while. It doesn't have to be permanent if you don't want it to be, but he has to get the message that this is not OK. Seeing a marriage counselor about rebuilding trust after this might also be a good idea. Personally, if it was me, i would leave him and start over again with my kids, but I can see from your message that you really don't want it to end that way.
Another thing you need to do is get to the core of why he would even want to cheat in the first place. Have you been having problems lately? Do you need some more "alone time" as a couple? Whatever the situation is, he needs to be reminded that you are his wife and he's lucky to have you. Confront him immediately!
2006-10-25 03:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry but unless you want to be share your man and maybe get aids or some other disease start divorce proceedings. It is horrible and painful when your husband,wife bf or gf cheats on you but it's worse if you stay in the relationship and allow it to continue. keep the pics you will need them in court. Now if this is his 1st time and you really think you can work it out both of you go to marriage counseling and see what comes of it. in the meantime regardless I would not have sex with him until he gets tested. He can still be close to your kids no matter what you decide but do what is best for you and that is never allowing a person to cheat and you it is degrading and disrespectful and you will resent him more and more as time goes on good luck and I am sorry you are going through this pain it happened to me years ago and my now husband and i split up for 7 years and then got back together I don't worry about him cheating now as we were in love as BF and GF and it took us a long time to find our way back together and we truly cherish each other now and i would never tolerate him cheating again we also had 4 children but i didn't let that get in the way of doing what was right we just became friends and then back together try to not let your kids no whats going on they don't need to resent their dad it will only make things worse for all
2006-10-25 03:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss; you seem to have low self esteem. I strongly suggest seeing a reputable councilor in your area. You are being abused, and so are your children! I being a male, went thru the same thing only my ex-wife, was cheating on me. We had two kids one was still nursing from her at 2 years of age!!! We went through counciling 1st, but I can assure you that if the person has cheated once they will most likley do it again or have done it before.
Please see a councilor, most insurances have a mental health number on the back of the card and they can give you names in your area!
2006-10-25 03:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, your choices are .... leave him and take half of what he owns and get child support
or except what he is doing .. sit him down and tell him you know and that you think you should have an open marriage you do the same thing he is doing and you guys stay married alot of couples do it is hard but if you don't want to leave him and he doesn't want to stop what he is doing then that's a good solution. every one wins and you guys stay close and you guys can even pick out the other ones partner... hope that helped
2006-10-25 03:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by purple_eyed_dragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Husband, I love you but this will not continue, you will stop, I will have assess to all of your email accounts, and we will go into counseling. You have 24 hours to make your decision, after 24 hours, if you decide that you cannot do this, you will have to leave and I will be contacting a lawyer"
2006-10-25 03:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Emme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have put your feelings aside and think about yourself. just because you have children with this man is no reason to stay with someone that's cheating on you. how can you take care of your children when you can't take care of yourself. this is wrong and you know it. now, do something about it. what would your children think of you if they knew their father was cheating and you allowed it? it's time to pack up and move on. once a cheat always a cheat, so let this women have him, and watch him do the same thing to her as he's done to you.
2006-10-25 03:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave and never look back. He will do it once, he willl do it again. As long as you let him. Try to seek the reason why you allow him to do this. Try a co-dependancy group of some sort of counseling. By all means, it will only get worse.
2006-10-25 03:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by beeotch 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you do not want to leave him, then confront him and demand counseling to help your marriage. If he declines, then get some dignity and realize it will be better in the long run if you leave him.
2006-10-25 03:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by noambition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT, O HELL NO. does it sound like he is cherishing his family right now??? dump his a*s and clean out the bank account. let that b*tch give him some money, she done gave him the nooky
2006-10-25 03:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have two choices: 1. continue being a doormat. 2. Dump him.
2006-10-25 03:34:33 · answer #11 · answered by Celt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋