I am 40 yrs old I was with this guy for 15yrs he cheated on me twice plus was lazy so I broke up with him. We planned to get married and all that. 2yrs after the breakup i met this guy started dating I fell so hard for him we live together now for the last year but have been together for 2yrs 6months. I know he cheats but he tells me and everyone else that he is really in love with me. The last time I caught him cheating I was ready to walk out the door. But I stopped myself cause I cant seem to walk away from him. He has sworn to me and other people that he will never cheat on me again but I know that is not true, but I cant seem to break away. Now I have my ex calling me begging to come back says he realized what he has lost and will do anything to get it back. I love him but not the way I love this guy I dont know what to do I think if I left him maybe he would realize what he had and change. Can someone please help me
2006-10-25 03:29:46 · 6 answers · asked by userpk8981 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump him.
2006-10-25 03:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you stay with soemone who has cheated!
Well my philosophy on that is when a guy cheats you automatically think its your fault. You know how they say...if you satisfied your man he wouldnt do that. The woman thinks its their fault. I got cheated on 4 times in 4 years ( that I know of) Why I stayed...I kept thinking what can I do to make it better. What have I done wrong. Why doesnt he like me. What did I do for him to do this. I thought it was my fault but I gave him everything. Its like competition. I had to be better then all those girls. What do I have to do for him to just be with me. I wanted to be the one.
But I had enough. I left and decided to be alone for awhile and keep my options open. My male friend opened my eyes. He says that I am beuatiful and willing and capable. I dont need to fight for soemones love. It will come all on its own. Tjhere shouldnt be any cheatign. The love should be there on its own. He shouldnt have the need to go somewhere else. |Your there and that should be enough. Dont lower yourself. Life is too short. Have fun and if someone steps all over you like that move on. Be independent. Try to find someone who will love you for who you are
French saying that i live by...je suis belle, suis fine, je suis capable
2006-10-25 10:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should lose both of them. You need to build your self-esteem so that the next relationship you get into you'll know what to do if this happens again. Go your seperate ways for now. If it's meant to be it will be.
2006-10-25 10:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by It's a secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A clown to the left of you and a joker on the right ditch them both permanently
2006-10-25 10:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just leave him and find someone new someone who has not cheated on you.
2006-10-25 10:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a cheater, rather then always the cheatee.
2006-10-25 10:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋