I have no idea how to deal with feeling so insecure around my husband because I am pregnant... this is my second pregnancy and I NEVER felt this way the first time around.
I don't feel good enough... pretty enough... I'm in tears everytime I think my husband might think another woman is attractive. It is really quite ridiculous. I have never in my life felt so insecure... I realize that being pregnant is making me quite emotional, but this is making me insane... I am 32 weeks pregnant and want to love and embrace my changing body... but I find myself ashamed to even be naked in front of my husband.
Has anyone else felt this way?
How did you deal with it?
Please help me!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 03:29:15 · 14 answers · asked by Legs 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yeah, I'm still in my first trimester and dealing with that. Really and truly, you need to sit down with your husband and say what's on your mind. It sounds wierd saying "I don't feel pretty" etc etc. Almost like a guilt trip or fishing for compliments, right? Well he needs to know what's going on in your head (and your sad heart) before he can take steps to correct it. The saying that men are not mind readers is so freaking true it's almost laughable. Unless you explain to your husband what you're going through right now, he won't be able to help you through it, and really, his love and support are what will make a huge difference right now (Contrary to Patrick's beliefs) Also, something that may help: When your husband is gone, lock the doors to your house (too many wierdo's out there these days!) and stand in front of a full length mirror naked. Look at your body. That swollen stomach is carrying your unborn child, what a miracle! Those huge breasts? They have the potential to feed your child! Is that amazing or what? All of the changes that your body has gone through/is going through are changes that make you bringing a new life into this world possible. It's hard, but embrace those changes. You've been given a wonderful gift (yeah right, huh? ;p) and in turn are GIVING a wonderful gift. Let your husband touch you and see you naked. Hard as it may be, once you realize (and trust me, this is so true) that he is absolutely fascinated with, amazed by, and incredibly aroused by, your naked pregnant body, you'll be so proud be to 32 weeks pregnant and growing.
Keep your head up sister!
2006-10-25 04:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are feeling this way this time around. Every pregnancy is different and it could be that you are just more hormonal this time around than you were the last time. I know I am this time. The good news is that you are in the home stretch and that you will have your body back soon.
One other thing.....(and I don't think that this applies to you, but you never know) it is possible to develop depression while pregnant, which is then called Post Pardom Depression after the baby is born.
I hope that your husband understands what you are going through and that you are able to talk to him about it. I think that for a lot of woman it is natural to not like their new big body while they are pregnant.
If you are still feeling down after you have the baby you may want to discuss this with your doctor.
2006-10-25 03:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I was only 10 weeks pregnant and I felt huge. My face wouldn't stop breaking out, I had already gained quite a bit of weight etc. My husband and I got into so many fights. (One of those because he decided it would be a good idea to go to Hooters). Unfortunately, I didn't know how to deal with it. I yelled and screamed and cried and everything else that I could think of. However, none of it made me feel better. Just know that you're not the only one that's gone through that. I wish I could be more help on how to deal with it though.
2006-10-25 03:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by lena5523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ability to give birth is one of the richest gifts GOD has given you. Don't be ashamed of your body, it's preparing to bring one of life's most precious gifts into existence...you should never be ashamed. If a man loves his wife, he loves her completely no matter what her physicality's are. I'm sure this is how your husband feels about you. Revel in your majesty, and bask in the beautiful glow you have. Do some meditation exercises, create a mantra; tell yourself how much you love yourself; look at the beautiful things about you and say them out loud. Edify yourself be in the moment of your blessing. There are women that can't have children, who would give anything to experience what your body is going through. Don't take a blessed experience and turn it into something bad. The meditation and mantra exercises, not only will this help you now, but it will deter any post situations from occurring also. You are beautiful.
2006-10-25 03:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was pregnant with my daughter I always felt beautiful. But I do understand how some women dont. Is your husband showing you enough affection? like is he telling you your pretty even though you dont feel like it?
Im sorry I couldnt be of more help, But I do know most men find their pregnant partners to be very sexy lol.
Pregnancy is a beautiful thing.
2006-10-25 03:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by that.one.girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I'm like that too, this is my 1st pg and I feel exactly the same...I cry, feel insecure (with no reason at all), feel ugly and ashamed of being naked in front of him.I know It's ridiculous...he's actually been so turned on by my pg body, he wants to be with me all the time...so I talk to him, he explain that he loves the way I look, he thinks it's sexy, he loves my round belly and bigger breasts...and told me how amazing he thinks we women are for being able of miracles like this. After that I felt somewhat better...it's just the hormones I think...but sure talking to him made me feel better. Talk to him about your feelings and emotions, he may surprise you with his answer (like mine did) Good luck
2006-10-25 03:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we mothers know about the hormone imbalance, also known as temporary insanity. I'm wondering what you are sensing other than the pregnancy that makes you feel insecure around your husband. And it is no law you have to be naked in his presence if you don't want to be. Have you tried talking to him?
2006-10-25 03:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is funny I felt like that with my second one too. I just finally drove myself crazy to where I had to sit my husband down and tell him how I felt and I really at first didn't think he cared so I got mad and went to take a shower when I came out I thought he had went to bed, when I walked into the living room he turned on the fireplace and played our wedding song and asked me to dance with him, it made me cry he told me that he loved me and that he thought my body was the most sexy thing he has ever seen because I was carrying his child. Just try talking to him, it works.
2006-10-25 03:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hormones, you should just tell your husband. And let him see you naked.
boobies are boobies whether pregnant and engorged or not... lol :) Every man enjoys his pregnant wife, its his doing after all. Its like his own personal work of art, that he can truely enjoy.
My best advice is to pop some olive oil in the microwave for a minute, hand it to him, get naked and let him give you a good rub down. it'll make you feel really good, and its sure to be enjoyable for him. I promise.
Theres nothing wrong with you. Its normal to feel unattractive. Just tell your husband whats going on with your head, he'll want to help you.
2006-10-25 03:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I felt like that during my last few months. I was under the impression that my husband was sleeping with every woman he talked to. After our baby was born I never felt like that.
2006-10-25 04:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋