Well I been with my boyfriend for about 4 1/2 years. Well for the last three months. We had only had sex three times in the last three months. He is a police officer and he says he is aways tired. I mean I do everything for this guy and I ask him for just one thing and can't do it..Do you think that he has another girl or is not wanting to be with me anymore. I had talked with him about it and he just keeps on telling me that I am just taking this way beyond. I told him if he wanted to be freinds to tell me. I mean I am like two states away from home and if that was deal then I would just go home. He is also getting mad at me all the time when I bring up the question. He don't tell me anything either. I wonder if I need to start fixing my self up or lose like 15 pounds or just change myself all together. I hate talking about this cause it all ways makes me cry if there is any advice I can use it.
2006-10-25 03:16:22 · 7 answers · asked by Stunna 25 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Honey, first of all PLEASE do NOT listen to the idiot who told you to lose weight for this fool that you are with.
IF he loved you he would not want you to change yourself in anyway! When someone loves you they love you unconditionally and they do not want you to change yourself for them!
In my opinion you should get yourself together and get as far away from him as possible. This is not a loving relationship that you are in. Love does not make you feel they way you do and it does not make you cry.
The worst thing that you said was that when you try to talk to him about this problem that the two of you are having he is getting mad about it. That is not a mature way to handle a problem and it tells me that there is a reason that he does not want to talk about it. Either he does have another girlfriend or he is just not attracted to you. No normal guy lives with a woman and only wants to have sex once a month! This is NOT a healthy relationship for you.
Find a way to go home, you do not need this.
Love and Blessings
Lady T~
2006-10-25 03:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't listen to "The Answer" obviously that person's making fun of you.
Well girl I'm sorry to say. There's a high chance he's cheating on you. He's probably not interested anymore, and to afraid to be honest about because he doesn't want to look like a jerk. I went thru the same thing. If you experience these signs. It's better you leave instead of being stringed along.
here's the signs:
1. Starts a argument for no reason.
2. Those hours of the days you two use to have are suddenly not available anymore.
3. He's distant, does not caress you and get intimate like the usual.
4. When you do get intimate he's not eager like he use to be and when its over... lets say there's barely any spillage.
Know this sex is a gift that's needs to be share with someone you love in marriage. So when you give a gift away like yourself to someone who does not appreciate it. They just open it look inside shrug and put it in there closet to collect dust. I learn the hard way.
2006-10-25 11:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend does not deserve a nice girl like you and you should not allow him to make you so unhappy. If you are really overweight you can start doing some exercises to firm up a bit. Try to always look attractive and try very hard not to nag or whine. It's clear you have no self-esteem left, so start working on that area by believing in yourself. You're an unique person, don't let him let you feel otherwise. Act confident if you are with him. For the moment forget about sex. If you succeed in getting your relationship on track again, it wil come automatically. And if it doesn't, then maybe it's time for you to move on. Good luck.
2006-10-25 10:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just dont like sex alot after so many years of being with you.. not ur fault.. if you really suspect he is cheating follow him one nite. get some girlfriends together and follow him. see where he goes who he meets. what he does. if you want follow him a few days or hire a company called catchthecheater. they follow him and video everything.. then take you to him while he is doing it so u catch him in the act.. good luck and hope u get back the relationship u want.
2006-10-25 10:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_williams31379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well believe it or not i know some guys that just aint all that interested in the sex part of a relationship. maybe you have a much higher sex drive than him. ask him if you can chat about that and that you wont mention it again. if its true then its your choice i guess - do you want a more sexual relationship or will you be fine with what you have. if it isnt true then it could be he has someone else - not definate but maybe. again though that choice is yours - we cant decide that for you.
2006-10-25 10:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Roo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just lose 15lbs, lose like 25 or 30. Then one night when you guys are going to bed, grab his goods and start going at it. Make sure he gets you pregnant so that he can't leave you.
2006-10-25 10:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by TheAnwserer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please tell me it was an accident that this is in the "Adolescents" section.
2006-10-25 10:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋