Everyone seems to be having sex but I'm 26 still a virgin. I've had a couple of boyfriends before and broke up with some because i couldn't give in and some for different other reasons. Am i normal
2006-10-25 03:15:16 · 52 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. And you're not alone. Don't give in and sleep with some random guy just because you feel you should, because 'everyone' else is doing it (they aren't), or because you feel you're missing out. I'm still a virgin, too, and gave up being ashamed of it a long time ago. I see it as something to value about myself. I don't know if I'll wait till I'm married, or whatever, but I do want my first time to be with someone I love. Whatever your reason is, as long as you're happy and content with your decision, there is no problem. It's great to hear that there are other women out there my age with the same principles.
2006-10-25 03:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are not normal, but fret not Jesus was a virgin his whole life so don't rush into sex until you are married it will make your relationship last longer but first you must find the right guy and it will last a life time. The bible speaks about how GOD cherish virgin and how they are so unique and special to him because you with stand most pleasurable things of the flesh I wish i was still a virgin my marriage probably wouldn't ended so abruptly
and if you do marriage check out some of the advantage you wouldn't have a lot old baggage to pack in the trunk cause you only been with that one person. when a person have many sex partners it becomes real hard to settle down with one lady. Cause you will always have what the last chic did to you on your mind especially if it was good. Kept it real and stay way for as long as you could remember if was meant he would stayed with you no matter if you had sex or not and that is real love
2006-10-25 03:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is over-rated... and so is being a virgin.
Do you think you really bring anything tangible away from having sex very often? Do you really lose anything by being a virgin?
In both case, the answer is no.
Still... you do lose something if you contract STDs or end up pregnant or get a bad rep. You'll also lose something deep inside if you REALLY want sex, but keep putting it off because there is a stigmata attached to sleep with someone before marriage.
What is important however is that when you do have sex, you are prepared, you want to have it, and you have it with someone you really want to have sex with. That is the crucial part of it all.
2006-10-25 03:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. you should be proud that you have that much self control. I'm 26, and a virgin too. true story. it's not the easiest thing in the world, what with occasional raging hormones and all, but i think it's a beautiful thing and i don't owe anyone an apology for my decision. sure i lost a few boyfriends along the way, but I'm finally in a relationship where the guy respects my decision and is standing by me. and that makes it all worthwhile. keep on keeping on, girl! you are a queen, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
2006-10-25 03:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by baby doodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should be... that's good. Although I did give in to keep this guy that I am with now. well, we have been together for 6 years already. Besides the initial heated arguments on sex, it is actually no longer a topic now. as in, it became part of the relationship. well, probably planning marriage next yr, seems to be the one and only guy I had... hmm I think not so critical to insist on sex after marriage but more importantly, it is the right person.
2006-10-25 03:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry i hadn't till i was 25/6 dont worry, i know people 27+ still not done it. Dont worry. When it happens it will, if anything you may be in for a better experience than a teenage fumble. You should meet bloke skilled enough with his fingers and lips to give you a fantastic first time.
Guys Foreplay - Foreplay - Foreplay get it right and you will have a very happy woman and a lot less headaches!
2006-10-25 03:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by budda m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virginity at your age is unhealthy.
The fact that you had boyfriends, and yet could not give in, indicates that you might have emotional issues which inhibit any form of intimacy. Seeing a therapist or a counselor could help you sort out these emotional issues which prevent you from having a sex life and may indeed affect other parts of your life, such a relations with family.
2006-10-28 06:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by me8md 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"normal" is an interesting word. I waited for the right person at 21 and was aware that I was unusual amonst my peers. I wouldn't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do until you feel ready. If a man is the right one for you then he'll wait. If it is a case that you just don't want to (lack of drive etc) and are worried about it, go and see the doctor. If you're not worried - just carry on how you're happy.
2006-10-25 03:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Hairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are very normal and very smart. Hold on to it until you are ready because there are so many diseases out here and men who just want to add another notch under there belt. Wait until you find the right one, the right one is the one that will wait for a very long time because he really love and respect you. The right will not keep bugging you to give it up and he will love you as much as you love him.
2006-10-25 03:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better than normal. There is nothing wrong with holding out until you are comfortable with giving that part of you away. It would actually be nice if more people would wait instead of having sex at 13.
2006-10-25 03:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋