How to get your husband off the computer?

Question

My husband is constently on the computer playing WOW. How am I able to get him to get off and spend time with me and his 11 month old son? Please help, this is resulting in marriage issues.

I have tried telling him, he is in counseling. I want to throw the computer away soo bad, but he would honestly hate me forever.

Well it is hard to become more interesting then the computer cause when you have no affection toward him anymore because he is always on the computer. Sure as heck dont want to have sex with him.

I am starting to feel like he doesnt want this to get better.. We had 3 family counseling sessions and he knows how I feel. But since then I have asked him to sign us up for Marriage counseling and he claims we dont need it. I can exactly force him to go.

There is not a password to the internet.. I am on Cable modem soo there is always a connection. I was looking for one of those timers but I could only find them for DSL or Phone

no he is really playing games.. i promise that one. I can walk in here and watch him. also I have a filter on his computer to see what he is doing. He isnt really that computer savvy.. Also he has a problem that with us hanging out it has to be something that he wants to do.. cause he does not compromise with things that I want to do.

he played just a little when I met him but not this game and this one has become a devil in our house. now that he has gotten his friends into playing it too it is just getting worse. My husband will tell me to go out and do things with my mom or family.. just so he can play his game in peace and not listen to me ***** about getting off.

My body is about to give out cause I am the one that takes care of Aiden all day and goes to school full time and laundry, chores, cooking, car maintence, cuts grass.. everything.. and when he comes home. I have to ask him to give Aiden a bath. otherwise he would just come in and go to the computer.

He got home and got on the computer and told him that he plays way too much and that everything that he finds enjoyment in always seems just to include himself. So what does he do.. He packed up the computer and put it all in the corner.. unplugged everything. Also put all his books and everything that only consists of him in bags. So that way he doesnt do anything just by himself.. Of course he took it to the next extreme and wont talk to me right now.. at least for tonight. But he took his own computer away I wasnt exactly the bad guy.. not in a direct way any who. Thanks everyone!!

Answer 1

Get rid of it

Answer 2

It appears that your husband is using the computer as a way of escape. He doesn’t want to deal with reality. Fantasies and that WOW appears to be his focus right now – he’s addicted.

If you can get his attention for some time (not too long or nagging him), ask him, does he want the relationship or not? And go from there.

When did the addiction start? Was he addicted to the net while you were pregnant or before the baby was born? Try and remember when he started paying more attention to the net, then you? That may help you to seek out a solution for your marriage, if he’s willing to keep it.

Be blessed and be encouraged.

Answer 3

He is obviously more worried about his needs than those of his child or you. This is very typical for men and the remedy is long and difficult, but the solution is in this book...'mindful loving' by dr. Henry Grayson.

IF his computer is more important than his family, then you shouldn't care if he would hate you forever or not.

You need to put him on a decision...his family or the computer. Breaking the computer is one option, but showing him how important it is to you can be done in other ways.

Try telling him that being a husband and a father is about putting his families needs ahead of his own and making sacrifices.

Answer 4

been there done that, i use to walk in and the pc room and go straight for the off button, if you hold it awile it will go off, and when he triies to push you away, say see what its doing and work off the sympathy of him oushing you away from the pc, that works for awhile lol, and also do a really quick hit the escape button, and ther is the alt, control delete all at the same time. when he says you'll mess up the pc doing that, don't listen , cus it won't it'll be fine, on nights where u definalty don't want him on, unplug the cable wire secrectly from the wall, and play dumb. lol and if you can keep him from ripping the pc apart to find out why, you'll have a peacful night. i have even taken the mouse and or the keyboard away and hid them. lol then theres the option i do right now of getting on my laptop and sending him non stop messages, to where it disrupts his game playing. lol i have been with my hubby for 10 years and married for 7 and he has slowed his playing down alot it just takes time and effort on your part. but he still gets in a roll somtimes when he gets a new game, or his dad gets him started again on his DOD crap. he even went and bought me my own DOD cd and stuff so i could play with him, it was fun " at first " lol good luck and unplug poke push and hold

Answer 5

It might be easier to provide an already thoughout plan like: Honey tomorrow morning, let's go to the Botanical Garden and then grab some lunch at theat BBQ ribb place with a large playground. Then agree on a time to leave. It may be a pain to have to organize everything but it beats being without him. Soon enough he will get the idea that it is actually more fun to hang out with you guys. and it may be easier getting him to move away from the computer rather than just nagging or saying: I wish you would spend more time with us or you love that computer more than you love me, etc...

Answer 6

Go stay with your mom for a while. Maybe that will be the eye-opener he needs to see that he needs more than the computer. OR you could stage a break-in and the computer is "stolen". LOL Seriously, give him a wake up call. Don't be there when he gets home. See how that makes him feel.

Answer 7

Pull the plug out of the Wall, Get someone to send you a virus via email .
It worries me when women say stuff like you are because when my ex spent all of his time on the computer,"playing games" he was on all the sites most men like to visit.
My son came across all these files of porn, pics that women had sent him etc.
What ever your hubby is doing ( I'm not saying he is doing what mine was), I can relate to it there is nothing worse than being ignored for a computer.
I hope someone has a real answer for you because I never found one. Good luck

Answer 8

damm that the old indian trick....she think's im playing while i'm realy checking hardcore porn and jerking off.......just cut the wire of the connection( from outside the house so you can blame somebody else ) if is dsl wireless just hit the box until stop working...., thats going to put him out the computer for a couple of days....give him a good massage.....and i mean a body massage.......

Answer 9

take the computer out of the house for a while, and if he gets all mad, tell him he can man up and be a father and a husband, or walk out and leave with the computer, you must stand your ground,your marriage is already on life support, you got nothing to lose

Answer 10

Was he on the computer when you met him? If he was then you shouldnt complain. If its a new phenomenon then follow what everyone says and discuss it while it (not he) is in infancy. Maybe he isnt comfortable with babies and will catch on as your child ages a month or three.

Answer 11

If you're this unhappy over it....divorce. Otherwise, learn to tolerate. He could spend all his free time at the strip clubs - the fact that he likes computer games is trivial.