when things between you just don't work out and then you just realize you need to part ways even though you still love that person...
2006-10-25 02:54:50 · 14 answers · asked by myles g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best way would be just to do it. get it over with. don't beat around the bush. when you do do it though don't tell them " i love you, but I'm not in love with you." that is the stupidest saying ever. letting go is the hardest thing to do, but there is no simple painless way to do it. just grit your teeth and get it over with as quick as possible. after it is done give yourself time alone. don't hook up right away.that might be a bigger mistake.
2006-10-25 03:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by staqk3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question would be "why aren't they working out". You say you love this person. How long have you been together? Maybe a vacation is in order for just the 2 of you, no family or friends. You fell in love with this person & still love them. Remember why you fell in love & rekindle it. Sometimes people think things aren't working out because you forget to do the little things that made you fall in love in the first place. People sometimes give up too easy on a relationship, only to start a new one & find the same thing happening all over again. If you love that person, get away together. Take walks & talk, hold hands & cuddle in silence, spend quality time together & give it all you've got to make it work.
2006-10-25 03:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by ubunibme2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people are saying that if you love this person, you can make it work. this is NOT always the case. this is kinda long, but i have to explain why you have to do things sometimes no matter how much you love someone. i was with a guy who was 7 years younger than me. we were together for 2 years. i loved him so much and he loved me. he treated me like a queen. towards the end though, some things came to my attention. i was his first everything.(this was awhile ago..LOL) i kept thinking that this can't last, not like i wanted it to. he would eventually want to be with someone his own age. also, his parents didn't like me, even though we never met, because of my age. we started to sneek around to see each other because they started to threaten him that he couldn't see his little brother or be a part of the family if he kept seeing me. I broke it off with him because it was best for both of us. my heart was broken for a long time. he was the best thing that ever happened to me, and this was 8 years ago. i know that i did the right thing though. it was a hard thing to do because he didn't fully understand why, but he excepted it. you just need to tell him now and tell him why, don't string him along. good luck.
2006-10-25 03:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not be easy...When you head tells you to move on and your heart says to stay. I have been there and it is not an easy decision. The only advice I can give is to put distance between yourself and this other person. Keep your mind busy and find a hobby to keep you occupied. It is not going to be easy but if you feel there is no other way surround yourself with frineds and just give it time. It will get easier.. good luck
2006-10-25 03:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by chick29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. Im in the same boat. Its one of the hardest thing I've ever had to deal w/. The power of prayer & support. I learning a lot about myself. What I want and dont want in life. I love him but I need to love myself much more. If it wasnt meant to be then its not. Good Luck
2006-10-25 03:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Licy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuff one. I had to do it with my best friend who was also the father of my kids and it still hurts although we are friends. We just wanted different things and we grew apart but I still love him and I think I always will. Good for you for not staying in a bad relationship even though you still love them.
2006-10-25 02:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be one of the hardest thing you can do. But if that is how you are feeling then you must sit down and calmly express your love for this person and explain to them why it can't work.
Best wishes.
2006-10-25 02:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer since I am going through the same thing with my husband- but I will be watching this to see what people say. You could help 2 people- thanks for asking this question. :-) Good luck to you
2006-10-25 02:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by grblondandblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love that person then you can MAKE things work and dont just drop them out of your life like that because you will eventually regret it
2006-10-25 03:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by megan c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just do it before things get worse between the two of you and you start hating each other
2006-10-25 02:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋