I met the guy that I love over a year ago well right when we met he had started a new job and we talked everyday because he was traveling for training on his job. Well when training was done he got sent away to another location which was 450 miles away. Well I told him I would try to come but didn;t know for sure because my daughter was in high school here. Well he went and I tried to go there but i could not leave her she was only 14 at the time. We would call everyday and talk and tell each other that we loved each other. Well I went as much as I could it is an 8 hr drive. Then he said he could not afford to come here because of gas. So we talked everyday and then when his lease was up this year he said he could not pay the bills anymore so he moves in with someone and he told me it was a lady. Well I was very upset about it he said you should not think of it that way that he didn't love her he loved me. Now he says he is applying for a job here but I just don't know anymore. Help!
2006-10-25 02:52:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well it's been a year you know. If he really loved you he would have probably found a way to see you during a year. Aside from that, sure maybe he isn't making enough and had to move but that in itself requires money when renting a room. Here's the thing he said he doesn't love her, he loves you. Not words one uses regarding a roomate situation. He could have explained that he knew a woman who needed a roomate, etc. and he needed a place quick. A more thorough normal explaination would have been in order. Sorry to say he's probably been seeing someone at least here and there and needed a place to shack up. Its because of the "I don't love her" thing I say that. No matter what the case he could and would have come up with a better story if he really intended to ultimatly be with you. Odds are hes been doing what hes doing and enjoying talking to you as he always has you on the back burner. Now things arent workin out exactly for him he may come back and want to be or live with you. If he does come back tell him to get his own place and then you will see. He's not ready for committment as there is always a way to see someone in a year. He's not telling you the truth.
2006-10-25 03:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a little faith, until proven different. Living alone is expensive, and male/female roommates is very common.
Give it a little time, see if he does apply/get a job where you live.
I wouldn't spend your money to travel 8 hours to visit him for a weekend anymore though.
Think about it! He received paid training, and was sent to another location by the company to work.
He is making a little more money than he is owning up too.
Just out of sheer curiosity, are you the one who initiates the phone calls?
Take a look at the picture. Are you making the first move on everything? If so, forget the faith, and get out!
2006-10-25 02:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an issue of trust, and it's really only something you can approach properly with the man in question.
Do you have any reason not to trust that he's telling the truth?
Are they living together as partners, or as roommates?
Maybe you'd feel better if you made plans to go visit him in his new home, or if he sent you pictures of it, showing you the layout, his room, her room, etc.
Have you had the chance to find out more about her? She could very well be in a relationship as well, she is very possibly just a friend.
2006-10-25 02:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but i think u already know what you should do!..sounds to me like your just being used as a back up!..u need to forget him ,easier said than done i know but still yet it would be in your best interest to get out now,don't let him waste anymore of your life!..get out there & find someone who will love u & treat you the way that you deserve to be treated!...by staying you r only telling him that it's ok to treat u this way & u r only delaying the inevitable because eventually he is going to find someone who he does care about & leave you!..sorry to sound so harsh but i really believe this,but either way i wish you all the luck,stay strong for u & your daughter!
2006-10-25 02:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it could be that he is telling you the truth!! Things are very expensive, rent, hydro, phone, food, etc... So i t is possible he may not be able to afford living on his own, if you feel this strongly for him, and him for you, then move in with him yourself, if he said he is applying for a job close to you, then give him a chance!! If it seems to you like he's just screwing you around, tell him where to go, and move on with your life, you can do better then someone who treats you like a piece of... you know what!!!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-25 03:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him stay where he is, for one thing he is not stable, he hops from one place to the other, you do not need someone like this in your life. You will be the one working to take care of him. Start taking care of you, do for you, be nice to you, you will come out happier.
2006-10-25 03:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU EVER MEET OR SPEAK TO THE WOMAN? IF SO, GO WITH YOUR INSTINCTS AND HOW YOU FELT INSIDE WHEN YOU DID, AND IF NOT, FEEL HIM OUT SEE HOW HE REACTS WE YOU MENTION THE OTHER WOMAN, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ABLE TO TELL WHEN A MAN IS LYING, THEY GET DEFENSIVE, AND LOOK DOWN AND TO THE LEFT, ANYWAYS GO WITH YOUR HEART, I THINK THAT YOU ARE STARTING TO DOUBT THAT YOU EVEN LOVE HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE YOU WERE HURT. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!
2006-10-25 02:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by TLEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's working, but he can't afford gas, or rent what's going on with his money? He is not as serious about the relationship as you are. He would walk to see you if he really loved you. Sad, but true.
2006-10-25 02:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him.You dont want him to brake your heart. its not nice living with heartache. Go on with your life. Your daughter also doesn't need it and she also doesn't want to see her mother being sad and longing to someone that's using you.
2006-10-25 02:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lady_Y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*sniff sniff* You smell that? It smells like a big fat lie to me.
He loves you but he's living with someone else? Sorry, drop the zero and find yourself a hero!
2006-10-25 02:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Uh-May-Zing 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋