OK HERES THE DEAL, I STARTED HANGING WITH THIS ONE GUY WHO IS 19, OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS ESCALATED AND NOW WE ARE IN LOVE, BUT DURING ALL OF THIS I STARTED ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS OTHER GUY WHO IS 23, WHOM I ALSO LOVE. I HAVE A SON AND THEY ARE BOTH GOOD TO HIM, VERY GOOD. THEY ARE BOTH EQUALLY GOOD TO ME AS WELL, THE OTHER NIGHT THEY BOTH CAME INTO MY ROOM AND TOLD ME TO CHOOSE, I CHOSE THE 23 YR OLD BECAUSE I AM 24 AND I THOUGHT IT WAS A GOOD IDEA AT THE TIME, I KEEP GOING BACK AND FORTH, SO LAST NIGHT I BROKE UP WITH THE 23 YR OLD BECAUSE THE 19 YR OLD IS ALWAYS AROUND (HES MY BROTHER BEST FRIEND) AND I CANNOT TAKE SEEING HIM, I LOVE THEM BOTH AND I DONT WANT TO HURT ANYONE. WHAT SHOULD I DO? HELP!! THIS IS STARTING TO AFFECT MY HEALTH..
2006-10-25 02:16:33 · 25 answers · asked by TLEE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take a break from both of them and see who your heart erns the most for, having 2 men in your life is somthing i have been thru, i was with a guy who was 3 years older then me, when i met this guy 3 years younger then me. he was fun, made me laugh, and was so good to me, but i always looked at it like, i'm older and he feels all cool with his friends. but my older guy had his own place and was in a band and i thought i should stay because he had the things in life that i thought or felt that i needed for my age. but when i took a break from my younger guy, i relalised my heart was broken and lonely without him. and soon after i realised my older guy didn't make me laugh they way my younger guy did, and he didn't make me feel as speacial, or loved eigher. i made my desicion, and it did hurt for a long time but it was the best one i ever made, 10 years later with a 7 year marriage, a 7 year old child and planning a new baby, my young guy surpassed my older guy in so many ways. that older guy is still living in his old crappy apratment, playing his crappy bar bands and still looks like that single guy i met so long ago.
2006-10-25 02:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your son comes first. How dare you front two men in front of him. How confused is this little boy right now. Having a relationship is fine, but fronting them to your son has got to stop. I understand loving them both, but no-one is stupid here. You know who you love the most and just choose him and get it overwith. Think of yourself, but most of all. Get the drama away from your son. Your 24 acting 19....what does that say about yourself....Get it together, girl! GROW UP!!!
2006-10-25 09:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by hothink5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love someone there is no competition. It sounds like you are in love; that is not the same thing. I think that you need to take a step back. I would suggest cooling your relationship with both of them until you can get your head and heart straight.
2006-10-25 09:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about your child first. Will the guy be able to provide for both of you and so on? What are your plans with the future are you looking for a husband and if so is he willing to marry you and your child(so to speak). Can he provide for you both, does he have a job, does he drink or do drugs? You need to remember that you are choosing a role model for your child, which one fits best? How are thier parents relationships and most important, do you get along with their mothers??? I am seriouse about these questions, who is going to make both you and your child number one? Please think about this , what would you tll your child to do if the situations was reversed? Your advice to your child might be where your answer lies. Good luck!
2006-10-25 09:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know these dudes, just go with the one who you have the best memories of who you can envision spending the rest of your life of. One has to be more memorable than the other even if by an inch. You would ruin your life over a guy? You need to focus on you first before diving into which guy is the best for you.
2006-10-25 09:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by ~Pitbull 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them u want to just be friends and see who give it more .. and that way u can see who really wants it more and also this way u can give it more time .. and if u don't want to do that then make a list of goods and bads and see what happens if u have a friends that know them both maybe they can help u with the list b/c sometime they see things u do not.
2006-10-25 09:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by animal lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really do have a problem!! I think I would stay friends with both of them until I decided who i wanted to be with. Do what makes you happy!! Follow your heart and you will make the right decision. I will pray for you!
2006-10-25 09:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by mrswill28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take time away from the both. The one that you think about more and want to be with more should be the one you should be with!
2006-10-25 09:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with the 19 year old.
2006-10-25 09:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think they both need to have there best female friend beat you to within an inch of your life one way or another its all gonna come back to you whoever you choose is gonna get you back and even if you break it off with both of them ur still gonna get whats comin to you and you know what its there own dumb *** fault for knowin what you do and still sticking around for it so i guess i nor they cant really blame you past what you did
2006-10-25 09:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋