will listen to any and all advice to save my kids from mentally abusive father.
2006-10-25 02:06:08 · 7 answers · asked by eg_ansel 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
choose your men more carefully
2006-10-25 02:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get counsel ling for your kids, first of all. You can also report the abusive father to Child Protective Services. In a divorce situation, the two divorcee's may not communicate very well (I know, I'm a genius with that astute observation!!) so, you may find more success in affecting positive changes in your kids lives by going through 3rd party authorities. If the abuse is severe enough, and CPS documents the abuse, then you've got a strong foundation for recourse.
I have gone through very similar situations. While I get absolutely no where with my ex (who will, no doubt, put her own interests before the kids specially when it's me that makes suggestions toward the well being of the kids), I have found that CPS will follow up on reports, school truancy officers will confront the parent when you report excessive absences, school social workers will screen the kids for an array of potential abusive behavior.
If you put these type 3rd party authorities in action, he will be much more willing to cooperate than if it were coming from you. Additionally, they have true authority.
2006-10-25 09:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Baz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer about keeping a journal is very good. I just want to add something about getting a lawyer:
try to get a recommendation for a lawyer. There are plenty of expensive lawyers who will milk your case for every penny and not zealously fight for your custody. If you have any friends/relatives who have used an attorney for anything, call that attorney and if he/she doesn't handle domestic relations; perhaps they can give you a good referal. And talk to as many lawyers as you can to get a good feel for the one you pick.
2006-10-25 12:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by chio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in to see a social worker at your county govt offices. Ask the court to appoint a guardian at litem for your children--that way it won't look like an "angry ex wife making false accusations". That happens a lot. It is disgusting what people put their children through to get back at their ex. Your first action must be to talk with a county social worker. Good luck!
2006-10-25 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Cherie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a journal. Be specific, be precise, be clear, be complete.
Document time date location and other witnesses to what he says and does that you observe personally.
Document what your children tell you that he says and does.
Document how your children tell you that it makes them feel when he says and does these things.
Document any of your children's behavior that you think is linked to what he says and does.
And, yeah, get a good lawyer. A good one isn't going to be cheap, but in the long run it's cheaper than hiring doctors to repair your kids.
2006-10-25 09:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by open4one 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you prove Mental abuse or is it just your opinion-
2006-10-25 09:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the best Lawyer you can afford!
2006-10-25 09:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by damdawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋