anyone out there-- in love with someone you can't have???

Question

and how do you deal with it....

Answer 1

YES. ONE DAY AT A TIME.

HONESTLY THOUGH, I TRY TO STAY FOCUSED ON MY HUSBAND AND MY BEAUTIFUL GIRLS. (ONE OF WHICH COMES FROM THE LOVE I CAN'T HAVE). I REMIND MYSELF DAILY WHY THE TWO OF US COULDN'T BE TOGETHER (OUR PROBLEM WAS TIMING....NOT OTHER PEOPLE) AND I TELL MYSELF OVER AND OVER THAT THE RIGHT DECISIONS WERE MADE AT THE RIGHT MOMENTS IN TIME.

BUT I VISIT HIM....AND US.....REGULARLY IN MY THOUGHTS AND DREAMS. AND I KNOW THAT HE DOES THE SAME THING HIMSELF. (WE ARE FRIENDS STILL AND WE TALK ON OCCASION). IT IS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS THAT I'VE EVER HAD TO DEAL WITH, AND I'M SORRY TO SAY THAT FOR ME IT HASN'T GOTTEN ANY EASIER. (IT HAS BEEN ALMOST 10 YEARS NOW).

I HOPE THE BEST FOR YOU. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT EVEN THOUGH THE TWO OF YOU CAN'T BE TOGETHER, YOU STILL HAVE MEMORIES TO FALL BACK ON. AT LEAST THAT'S SOMETHING.

Answer 2

Oh, yes... There is one actor... I'm serious, I fell for him somehow about 8 years ago, and very surprisingly for me I still feel the same. I mean, I'm 22, and in my age, you see... He was a drunk, he smokes, and I hate this, besides he's 46 but since when accually is this supposed to be reasonable... No other is attractive to me since then. I feel so stupid when I'm talking about this. And I can't deal with it, I think I'll finally go to the psychologist, maybe for a hypnosis... It's not that he's the only thing on my mind, no, and it doesn't hurt THAT much either, but still... One thing good, I thought "O.K., since I like him so, maybe at least I can get use of it and pray for him" - and so I do. And I also pray for a solution to this problem. I believe sooner or later I'll find it, and I hope so will you. I'm with you. Take care.

Answer 3

What is the definintion of love? Yes, in the early years we might think love as something we say to each other to create a better relationship, but love is mutual...meaning until the other person agrees to get into a relationship and start see one another and actually getting to know the other person for who the person really is,

. i assume this question relates to your previous quesiton. how well do you know this person? you know for a fact that he is polite (in the terms of not actually leaving the other person) but if you think about it, if you happen to have a "relationship" and he has cheated on you, how would you feel. Most humans can't change their path of "destruction" or their ways.

I myself had been in a friendship for almost six years. One day i had been too generous, i had let myself pay for her dinner, i had asked if she was hungry and we had dinner, that day she had called me and asked if a possiblily of a relationship would be possible. I has struck by the question, so i had to give it a couple of days to sink in, unfortunately i had made my descision in haste, i had said yes to the question. The next few days i had, yes few, i had been in a short relationship. I probably should have waited until she was done with her divorce, but the thought of actually having a relationship over came me. She was serious about the relationship, she wanted kids, and i was all for it, but i decided to make my decision for myself. I had wanted to make a better career...get some professional experience, extend my education to a professional level. But that entailed a long move accross the country. I had told her about this and she thought of it as a invitation to come with me, again i made the decission out of pressure. I had said that the option is open, meaning she didn't have to come with me but if she wanted to she could. she had (or what i heard) a feeling of fear in her voice. That was the last time i talk to her. i would like to warn you about an experience had with the last two nights i was with her, i had a feeling like that was going to be the last time i was going to see her, but i saw her for one more time after that. The feeling came back after that night and it has come true.

Sorry about the long story but its part my explanation. Follow your gut, if you "feel" like you should get into a relationship with this person the by all means do, but make your decissions based on your experience (and maybe the one i told you about). Best of luck.
Jereme

Answer 4

It's one of the hardest things to deal with EVER. The only way to get through it is to give it time. Remember that things that are meant to happen, will happen. I know all too well how this situation feels, and I'm truly sorry that you have to go through this type of pain. And always remember- it's THEIR loss that they're not w/ you.

Answer 5

It will only cause heartache to continue to hope for someone who you cant have. Have fun with friends and in time you will find someone worth loving. Trust me...there are some fantastic people in the world who are free.

Answer 6

I am inlove with the woman down the hall she is a hottie and oh she has my heart on a chain and the slightest yank and I am like a dog behind a smelly butt.

I just admire her from afar wishing that one day my true love will be mine

Answer 7

I had been in the past and slowly it killed me. I told my self lies and came to find I was depressed over the issue. I had to let it go. I talked to the person and told them how I felt. But that person knew that they couldn't be mine. I separated my feeling from that person and put them aside. I talked to my self and told my self what was important. That a person that you couldn't have was not going to end your life. There are other fish in the sea. Sometimes better ones!

Answer 8

Nope.

If you were though, you should begin to deal with it by putting your mind and actions on something else, preferably something you CAN have or do, something that helps other people and keeps you busy.

Answer 9

In love? I can't be in love with him. Too bad for me and I can't have him either.

Answer 10

I drank. its not a good idea. i got through that and now go to the gym, play basketball and see friends.

Try to keep your mind busy