I have a friend I'm falling head over heals for but I'm still married. My friend is someone my husband hates. I think it's the fact the my friend spends more time with me and makes time to do things for me and my husband doesn't make the time or effort.
2006-10-25 01:57:07 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With all due respect...and I'm speaking wife to wife here...you may be on the verge of completely destroying your marriage. Do NOT give in to this temptation. You need to sit down with your HUSBAND--talk things over, tell him how you feel, give the man a chance to change his ways. You married "till death do us part", right? So now you're going to throw it all away, even all the good times you guys have had and the love you must have felt for one another at one time...for a fling with some guy friend, whom you are now attracted to simply b/c he outshines your husband? You are attracted to him b/c he's NOT your husband--he's a novelty--he hasn't forgotten an anniversary, he hasn't been too busy for you...right? I don't know your hubby and I bet that the wrong in you guys' relationship is partly his fault too; it takes two to tango. But does he work hard, providing for your family? Do you have kids? Does he show his love for your children? Is he under alot of stress lately? My point is, there are SO many steps between here and where you want to go w/ this relationship. Give your hubby a chance. Please do NOT fall for this other guy--it will not make you feel better in the long run...when you've gotten used to his ways and the newness wears off, you'll be right back at square one. Please reconsider your thoughts and your potential decision. All the best to you. :)
2006-10-25 02:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by peachy78 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first I think you should get rid of your friend I dont think it is a true friend. Do you think there is a reason your husband does not like your friend. I can see the reason why and I am not even there. These days it takes a lot to keep a marriage together work on both parts. I think you need to talk to your husband about what is going on before it is too late. Always keep in mind the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence but once you jump it you will notice it is turning colors over there also. Work on your marriage and get counceling. Hope your marriage makes it.
2006-10-25 02:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by patty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you said "might be in love"! Are you sure you want to end your marriage on a might? Why are you spending so much time with another man while you are married? Have you reached out to your husband so that you can spend more time together? Have you done things in your marriage that can spice it up a bit? There are many things to do before you throw in the towel. Y does your husband hate this friend? Is it because your husband knows that he is spending so much time with his "wife"?
2006-10-25 02:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey
i am not sure if your new friend is male or female,
Remember the grass is not always greener on the other side just looks that way..And truly if that was a true friend they would not inter fear with your relationship with your husband..the fact is your so wrapped up in you new friend doing stuff with you you wouldn't even notice if your husband did something..Take a good hard look at your relationship..you may not be able to change your husband but you can change the way you think about things communication is the best..whether it be a letter or face to face ..
Don't loose what you have with your husband work on it to make it better..!!! lots of luck too you
2006-10-25 03:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by kevang4444 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still married, than you need to deal with that issue first!! Being with another man will only confuse things, and end up very bad for you!
If you are unhappy in your marriage, you either need counceling or a divorce. If the divorce happens, than focus on the other guy. In the meantime, keep your mouth shut about your feelings! If you were smart you wouldn't tell your husband anything!!
2006-10-25 02:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband has his reasons this guy may seem to be such a good friend but has a motive to get into your pants my best friend is a man my husband cant stand him but my friend if he had feelings that way would never disrespect my marriage he may think i can do better but not with him i know he would love to have a wife like me but knows im taken stick with you husband he calls him as he sees him.don't break up a friendship just back off for a while say you busy you cant it sounds like you need some space from your friend.good luck by the way isn't your husband working when he has no time to spend with you.????good luck
2006-10-25 02:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key word is might, you don't know for sure, but the fact that your looking for love, tells me you love your husband but that your not in love with your husband. it suggest you are having a difficult time in deciding what you really want in a relationship, and out of a relationship. before you tell your husband do some serious thinking, perhaps suggest to your husband that you start dating again, IE going out to movies , dancing etc. that you need quality time with him, if the relationship is going to last, otherwise its heading for trouble. be as honest with him as you are with your boyfriend. and remember this, some men go after married woman, because they are safe, their married, and no commitment is required. and if the woman gets pregaent she already has the meal ticket
2006-10-25 02:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! The real question should be how are you going to tell your husband you are love with anyone else. And if you think you are then why don't you just leave him. it totally gripes my butt that people will stay in a persons life until they have found someone else.when you first realized that your heart was elsewhere you should have cut your husband a break and left. Cheating isn't exactly grounds for a marriage to work. Leave the poor man alone and let him find someone worth loving. Sound slike you are hedging your bets to me. good luck to your husband.
2006-10-25 02:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by movingal234 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it really doesn't matter if your husband already hates the guy or not. Once he finds out--he will hate anyone you are in love with!
Best bet is to choose which man you really want to be with. If that is the other guy, then it is only fair to come clean with your husband.
If I were you, I wouldn't tell him a thing until you really soul search & make sure this is the direction you want to move in!
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 02:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you allowing this to happen? It's not going to happen unless you cooperate.
If you really want to save your marraige walk away from the other guy and don't look back and never mention it to your husband. Spend your free time finding ways to rekindle the romance between you and your spouse
Stop playing with fire. Get new hobbies.
2006-10-25 02:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋