Hi there everyone, i really need some advises form you guys, i just recently found out that my girl was cheating on me ofter hearing the rumer for like 5 months, now im going crazy i dont know what to do, please i need any advise that will help me heal what i have inside, guys please help me please
2006-10-25 01:56:27 · 18 answers · asked by yordanipage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetheart, It will not be overnight that the healing of a brokenheart begins. Healing from the inside takes time and lots of it. The worst thing you should do is be on the defensive. Please take a deep look within yourself and ask yourself did this woman ever make you truly happy?? If not, man take the time and be good to yourself. Now, I not talking find another beautiful attractive woman in 30 days. Ask yourself 5 keys to any healthy relationship. Will she learn to love, honor, cherish, trust and communicate with you always! If so, you'll find the right woman and stay in healthy strong relationships but you also have to remember to put Jesus in the center..Prayer in times like these always came though to help and goes for anyone!!
2006-10-25 02:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey Lynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep it frosty buddy ; ) unless you want to get seriously hurt and perhaps risk being intimidated from the "girls arena" in the future. Listen to what I got to say, cause I think you're a nice and cool guy : ) so, first of all you should start with someone down to earth, that hasn't been dateing lots a guys, or is some kinda superstar in school ( and don't make excuses for her, I can see you from here ; ). and therefore having a high sense of expectation; always comparing to what the others had to offer her. So it really would suck to be with someone getting all that male attention. And you'd never feel comfortable or secure with her cause she has more experience, and at her age they want guys with a few years more experience ( it will all make sense as you get older : ). She's a flirt, knows it and uses it to her advantage, so with her it would be like standing on an uneven ground from this point of view. You should be looking at someone like the girl next door : ) pretty and proper. Where it would also be her first kiss with you : )) that way, things are balanced fairly between the two. Do you see what I mean ? The girl you described earlier, is the type that will choose the guy according to his car, in a few years ; ) and don't throw yourself down, you're only 15 !!! : ) this is the begining of your life journey ( girls incl. ). But you gotta start in the right direction, and it's normal to feel the way you do for a crush your age : )) cheers buddy
2016-05-22 12:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one else can really "heal what you have inside".
Only TIME can heal your feeling. You know what? Forget her and try get close to another girl(s).
Three years ago an exact thing happened to me. I was down. I was down low. So low that even the lowest hell will put me underground. Anyway, I didn't get any better by thinking about her over and over again. The only thing that could fix me was TIME. As the time went on, I started to forget her. The best way to accelerate this process is by looking for another girl. By starting to like another girl, you will eventually forget your "love emotion" to your (ex-) girlfriend.
Hope this help.
Oh, no, my comment won't help. I told you the only thing that can help you is the bloody TIME.
2006-10-25 02:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by BotaXupeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me when I was 17 (now 47), but it is as clear as yesterday. I understand your pain. I also went nuts... I thought he was the only guy on the planet. As time went by, I found out I was so wrong. It is time that will heal you. Trust me on that one.... Time takes care of everything. But you know... he was my first boyfriend, and we were together 3 years. It was especially hard because not only was he my first, it was a very long lasting relationship. I still think of him sometimes! I often wonder how his life ended up. You never forget your first love!
2006-10-25 02:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man........ CALM DOWN.
Listen to me. Its happend to every single guy on the planet. Dont lose your shyt over one girl. They out-number us 10 to 1.
It takes time to heal, bro. You gotta learn to deal with it.
Look at it this way. If you found out much much later, and you proposed to her or something, what if she told you then? Wouldnt it hurt more? And ask yourself this: If she's that immature and that mean to do that to you, do you REALLY wanna be with her anyway? She betrayed your trust. So you CANT TRUST HER. Youre much better off without her, believe me.
Time heals everything. Dont go out and drink every other night for 6 months like i did. It does nothing. I thought my life was over when i found out my ex-fiance was cheating on me and broke up with me over him on my 21st birthday!! I started drinking and begging people to drive me home at night. Then i met this girl one day at a friend's graduation party. 4 years later i married her, and 7 1/2 years later im the happiest man alive.
When you think you cant go any further down, the only place to go is up. Hang in there bro, it'll be alright.
2006-10-25 02:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by JusticeManEsq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact her....preferably in person, tell her that you know she cheated and that it is over between you. Go home....NEVER, EVER contact her again - EVER....I mean it. Don't return her calls, don't answer her emails. Treat her like she is dead. Toss out anything that reminds you of her. Delete her number off your cell phone - delete her email address off your computer. BTW whatever you do don't accept blame for her cheating. Find someone new, better in every way. Living well is the best revenge.
2006-10-25 02:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go man . just move on.leave that b behind u like yesterdays trash.life is to short to waste on some b that cant be true.go find yourself a real woman.
2006-10-25 02:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by justmecat69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what do you want me to say? forgive her & forget? it depends on the extent of what she's done to you...if you're not ready to lose her then it's all up to you...come to think of it who is ready to lose the one they love so much? if you take her back when she ask for your forgiveness, will you be ready to forgive her....forget & trust again w/o a doubt?
it's your call....but be rational...we cannnot live by love alone...we need some respect too...do what is right for you...
2006-10-25 02:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy, I'm sorry about you. Forget it, ignore her, Don't let her ruine you. Stand up and go ahead!!
You'll find someone that deserve you love and care.
Good luck my firend!
2006-10-25 02:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♪Fencer♫♪ 4Him 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There will be others. Use this as a lesson learned and find a replacement.
2006-10-25 01:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋