My husband and I are together ten years. He spends more time with his buddies and on other activities then with me and the kids. We have three beautyful boys. I would like to find someone who has the time to spend with us and not ignore our feelings to benefit his own. That's why I need to know how long is long enough to wait to start dating again.
2006-10-25 01:47:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ten yrs. is a lot to just throw in the garbage. Have you tried counseling? Discussing how you feel with him?Try going along with him in his other activities (unless it's always to a bar or something inappropriate for the 'lil midgets). Do you really think you are going to find a man who really wants to spend time with some other man's midget kids? I know midgets are cute 'n all but there must be some special needs there. And they are going to have a lot of emotional baggage to deal with after mom leaves dad - it's not a walk in the park and you can't just go shopping at the local dad store for a shiny new one.
Work on your marriage.
2006-10-25 02:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer that but you. I know, after my husband died, it was about 1 &1/2 years before I starting thinking I was ready and another 6 months before I went out on a date. Take some time to find you first and have some fun doing things for you.
2006-10-25 01:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by txsbrandy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your husband i would talk with him before going along with you plans to divorce. as far as dating afterward if you do, you have kids. the divorce will be tramatic enough. at least 3 or 4 years, at the least. wait for your boys to say mom, you need a bf. don't rush into a relationship just because you want someone to hold you. talk to your husband first. communicate and things could get better
2006-10-25 01:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all have you spoke to your husband about this? Find out his concerns and see if the two of you can meet on some mutual grounds. Maybe go to marriage or family counseling... If you have than you can start dating as long as you have filed separation papers.
2006-10-25 02:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the answer to the questions depends on how old your children are, and how they will adapt to everything that happens. the first consideration is their needs not your needs. it takes time for children to accept, and come to terms with separation and divorce. the younger they are the easier it is for them. as for dating when you feel your kids are OK, and have adapted well, then i would start dating, but taking it slow, and do not introduce the man your dating into your children's life until you yourself feel that he is the type of man you could have a serious relationship with
2006-10-25 01:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. You don't want to bring strange men home to meet your boys. You need to make sure you honestly know someone before that happens. Its a scary world out there. There are some men that prey on single mothers. BE CAREFUL!!
2006-10-25 01:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no magic number of months, its when you are ready and dont let any man you are dating meet the boys for at least 6 months, make sure hes gonna be around before your kids get attached to him
2006-10-25 02:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question gets asked all the time and it is by far the dumbest. It's NOT like somone died or anything. You can date whenever the hell you want. For anybody to say otherwise is just plain stupid.
2006-10-25 01:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediatly
2006-10-25 01:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would wait until the divorce party the night of the court date.....
2006-10-25 01:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋