my best friend is worrying me. last year she was bulimic for a while. throughout this summer she made out with 8 different guys who she hardly knew. she's recently started smoking. (we're 14) and i know she only does it to be a show off and feel cool. what can i do?
please no perverts.
2006-10-25 01:39:58 · 10 answers · asked by me 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
oh i meant making out as in french kissing and all that. the hard thing to tell her is about the smoking. there are like6 or 7 other kids in our class that smoke.
2006-10-25 01:49:40 · update #1
Well tell her how you feel and that's it. Take it easy, it's all normal at this age.. And also let her know you're always there for her and if there's any trouble, make sure you just LISTEN to her..
2006-10-25 01:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate your concern for your friend, as a best friend is always a best guide. Half done with your concern the remaining half to mend the ways of your friend is, try to put some morals and ethics in to your friend's brain. Discourage her time and again. But do have patience as it may take some time for her to come of that trauma. I personally feel until and unless some thing negative happens to your friend in her endeavors your word may not be taken granted to mend herself. But once it happens she can see through your efforts and will be grateful to you for ever. As this happens at your age don't be panic and inform her parents unless the issue become very serious. I once again appreciate your attitude towards friendship which should be an eyeopener to others like your. God bless you.
2006-10-25 08:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk let her know that you are not trying to hurt her feelings and not lecture her, but tell her straight away that you thin her behavior isn't becoming of a 14 year old and that she looks bad to her peers. You may also want to tell her that people are talking behind her back, even though they may not, this might help her to see what she is doing, becuase everyone cares about what other people think. Good Luck
2006-10-25 08:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.
There is not one thing you can do if she does not want to do it for herself. You are right, she is doing it to feel cool and be accepted. Funny thing is she is ruining her reputation and she is showing no respect for herself whatsoever. Therefore she should not expect anyone she hangs out with that does the same to respect her. It is her life and her choices. Be it wrong or right it is her decision to do right or wrong. If she continues to do wrong it will catch up with her one day and she will pay the price for it.
What you need to do is learn from her mistakes and prevent yourself from getting tangled up in them. A true friend would not expect you to. Maybe, in time, she will learn from her mistakes.
2006-10-25 08:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to seem unsympathetic but you can not be bulimic for awhile. Your friend could be in serious emotional trouble, or she could just be trying to find herself and figure out who she wants to be. You said she made out with 8 guys, did she have sex with them or just some kissing and petting? Talk to her, about how you feel, and you concerns if she seems determined to hurt herself with her lifestyle it is time to talk to a teacher, or her family.
2006-10-25 08:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but a mother, you should talk to he parents. If you don't think you can talk to them, talk to a teacher. She needs help and if you stand by and watch her self destruct then you are not her friend.
2006-10-25 10:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people need to make mistakes to learn.
tell her how you feel, but don't expect her to change right away. make sure she knows all about safe sex.
the best thing you can do is just be her friend and LISTEN.
2006-10-25 08:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by SallyC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing for you to do. This person needs to face her own demons. They will show up in her lifetime so long as she is still a stray.....
2006-10-25 08:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by DenMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh she will get over it
stop worryin and enjoy yourself
2006-10-25 08:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you...........be you.........and be there for her as a friend..........you dont have to "like" what she does........or even be just like her. Being "cool"......isnt worth risking and unwanted pregnancy........or worse..........an STD.
2006-10-25 08:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋