My boyfriend runs his owns business and he is behind on his tax return and bits, as his business partner was not doing them properly, he is also in the process of selling his house, which has fallen through twice because the buyers could not get a mortgage sorted.
Anyway, he told me he needs a break, and he said its not fair to be with me if he cant give me 100% and it the hardest thing he has had to do, which i was upset about, but thats what he asked for so im giving him space, and im not sure if we will get back together or not, i want to, and i cant even explain how good our relationship was until he found out about the tax and house, he was always teling me how much he loved me and how he wanted to never lose me, this was three weeks ago, but he still hasnt come to collect any of his clothes or shoes which he had at mine, i still have most of his dvds, i have his xbox 360, all the games and controllers, and other bits like that.do you think we will get back together?
2006-10-25 00:31:38 · 28 answers · asked by kxkx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously I don't know the full situation so don't take my advice for the truth but for me part of a relationship is about getting through the difficult times together and helping each other out, getting them through etc….so for him to take a break when things are getting tough sounds a bit strange, Most people would want support from their partner when things are tricky in their life not to leave them so I would doubt that he wants a break because of the tax / house.
On the plus side he has left all his stuff at yours. If he wanted to split up would have probably picked it up now.
Advice - Give him the space he has asked for. If you try and bend hium / pressure him too much he is more likely to snap. Give him some space, maybe two weeks at the most and then if he messes you around too much lkeave him. He might then realise what he is missing. But if you pester him with texts etc he ismore likely to leave you for good.
2006-10-25 00:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men feel the need to hide when things aren't going well in an area of their lives.
Send him a card that says you are thinking of him and would love to see him sometime soon when he feels up to it. You could also put that you would like the opportunity to support him at this tough time.
Then wait - an offer of help may be just what he needs but is too proud to ask for - or he may need the space right now and will come back when and if he is ready. Try to keep in contact with a close male friend of his and get updates on how things are going. Set a time limit when you will contact him and say 'come and get your stuff and don't keep me dangling anymore' for yourself and don't let him get away with trampling your feelinggs just because he is a stressed at the moment.
2006-10-25 00:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what most people don't realize is the downfall to owning a business (which is what your boyfriend is currently going through). What most people see is 'I work for myself' and 'I am my own boss.' The reality of the situation has gotten the better of your current relationship and he is beginning to realize that. If things are not done properly when running a business, then one thing can cause a domino effect for the downfall of a business no matter how big or small. If he needs his space then he needs to come and collect his stuff. Or you need to give him his stuff back to him. Don't wait for him to come get it. You know where he is...take it to him.
2006-10-25 00:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he's a failure and and thinks he's going to bring you down with him , because he loves you he's putting distance between you both so his failure doesn't effect you .
He needs you now more than ever , his desperation will prevent him from thinking clearly
Go to him explain that it doesn't matter , the worst that can happen is you'll have to make a fresh start .
Ask him to put everything on paper so you can take it to an independent adviser and see what if anything can be done to rectify his situation ,
A solution may be staring him in the face but because he is so emotionally involved he can't see it .
PS your dealing with a man's pride good luck
2006-10-25 00:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like his male pride has taken quite a beating! He hasn't been to pick his stuff up so I would say there is a very good chance you will get back together. I would make it quite clear though that he can't keep pushing you aside every time he has a problem. Suggest to him that you should be able to work through these things together if you are ever going to have a long term relationship.
2006-10-25 00:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by punkyboygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds as if he is very worried so give him the space he asks for, but if you were really close he should be able to talk his problems over with you without breaking up. Perhaps he cannot afford to take you out at the moment so he thinks he is being unfair to you, or perhaps there is something you do not know about. Good luck
2006-10-25 00:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him all the space you can, in fact get rid of him. He is being selfish to leave you in the lurch this way, even if he has problems he could still have popped round to see you for an hour or so.
Pack all his belongings up, send him a letter stating where and when he can collect them.
Get on with your life, if he blocks you out when he really should be needing you most, he is not really as serious as you about your relationship.
2006-10-25 00:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is good that he left his stuff at your place. I agree that you should check on him and you might also let him know that you want to stay in touch as friends and that you will be there to help if he needs it. Working through hard times together usually brings people back together stronger than ever. He may appreciate you more if he knows you are still there through this terrible time for him. Try to emphasize that there would be no strings attached if he leans on you. Right now, he needs good friends to help him, not clingy/needy people that make him feel he needs to do things for them.
2006-10-25 00:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to comment without knowing both of you. It sounds like he is being honest with you by telling you he needs space. He is going through a stressful time at the moment and recognises that he can only think of himself. As he hasn't taken back any of his stuff it looks positive that you may get back together. Hopefully the time apart will show him how much you mean to him.
2006-10-25 00:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by emloubee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-25 01:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋