A sexuality question for men?

Question

I have always been intrigued by this question about hetrosexuality and homosexuality. Why they are so clearly defined.

I am hetrosexual and I am not sexually attracted to the same sex. So let me pose this question. Why do hetrosexual men state that another man is either handsome or ugly.

Where does this notion derive from, is it because you are attracted to that person or is it part of our conditioning to state opinions about other humans.

Has a man I am attracted to certain qualities in a womans appearance and would in no doubt also feel sexually attracted to her as well. So whats stops you going that one step forward when you see attractive qualities in another man.

Scientific theoretical answers only please

Answer 1

Heterosexuality and homosexuality are man-made terms. In reality, sexuality is far more complex than that. The existence of bisexuality proves this.

Everyone looks for different qualities in a person. For some, its physical appearance, and others - its personality. A heterosexual or homosexual places gender at the top of their list of things to look for, whilst some bisexuals claim that there are qualities other than gender to look for in a person.

There are some guys who are bisexual, or bicurious. They have a degree of attraction to their own gender, or a curiosity (in the base of a bicurious), but homophobia within mainstream society prevents them from acting out on their same sex desires/curiosity.

Labels are also a self-imposed thing. Someone could date members of both sexes and call themselves gay or straight, even though they are bisexual.

Answer 2

Yes I think each guy may be to an extent gay. From the psychological point of view each person has a female and male side inside them and to be succesful and to get the most out of this life, you will have to get in touch with both this sides and explore them to the maximum of your ability and views of life. I've done some pretty crazy things over the years, but I would say two things for sure: women are the best lovers for me and men are the best friends. So the whole point from all this is that people are kinda limited in their choices and desires and don't really live life to the fullest, but I'm telling you that you should ))

Answer 3

Well, I'm not "conditioned" to state opinions, I just always have. I'm simply acknowledging that some one is attractive (to me). If I find a woman attractive visually (which I do often) it by no means means I need to jump all over her azz, and the same goes for guys as well. If I jumped on every guy I found attractive, I would never get to classes.

Answer 4

You have been taught through your environment what to look for as being a "handsome man" or "beautiful woman". Being handsome or beautiful has nothing at all to do with what turns you on sexually.

Our society makes it difficult for a man to say another man looks good today, or that suit fits good, etc. But that is ABNORMAL to be afraid to make normal comments and observations like that. Other societies are much less hung up.

Answer 5

To recognize that another human being is handsome has nothing to do with sexual attraction. I am able to recognize beauty in a woman without wanting to have sex with her and additionally, being homosexual does not mean that I am sexually attracted to every man that I think is handsome.

Answer 6

You made me think of this:

My wife is exclusively lesbian. She can tell whether some men are handsomer than others, though. When we started watching NASCAR, she was perplexed by who would get my bisexual motor running (Tony Stewart, and I think Elliott Sadler's got something, too), because she thought other drivers were more classically handsome. She is also free with compliments about masculine beauty, especially to her male friends.

But this appreciation of beauty isn't the same as sexual attraction by any means. My wife talks about how looking at a handsome man is like looking at "a statue of a handsome man, like David." In other words, she appreciates the attractive man as sort of a walking work of art. However, she doesn't want to have sex with him, any more than she wants to have sex with David. Her "that's nice" means "that's nice" and nothing more.

While I am 50/50, I too have felt like I'm just appreciating statues of beautiful people rather than getting turned on by beautiful people. Sometimes I use my mom's expression, "asshole killed good-looking." Sometimes it's just that the wrapper is enticing and the gift isn't. At any rate, I've got all I want at home.

Think of it this way--I think pandas and polar bears and penguins are absolutely beautiful. They attract and delight my eye. They divert my attention. But I don't want to have sex with one. Surely you find other animals or objects attractive--dogs, cars, etc--and yet don't want to have sex with them. The men are other animals who are attractive, walking works of art, to you. And that's okay.

Well, you asked. :-)

Answer 7

Physical attractiveness and sexual desire are not the same.
Stating that someone has pleasing or displeasing features, in your opinion, is not even close to the same as stating whether or not you would wish to have sex with them. Only intensely insecure/homophobic people are unable to discern the difference.

Answer 8

Consider this...Men's health and weight lifting magazines are FULL of half naked men in their articles and advertisements. So are men's gym's...with all the posters and such.

The fact is that men are fascinated with other men's bodies, but they won't admit it. I'm 40 and hetero and married...but I would be a bald faced liar if I told you I I'd never admired another man's looks or body. I'd also be a massive liar if I said I never thought about having sex with another man. I'm human.

Answer 9

I can answer this from a woman's point of view.

I see many women that I think are attractive, but still I have no sexual attraction to them.

I don't think that finding someone physically attractive is the same as being attracted to them.

Answer 10

the same reason i can say a woman is beautiful, aesthetics. i find women attractive the same way i do a painting (but it doesn't excite me physically) I'm sure its the same for straight men, i mean anyone can see Antonio Banderas is attractive whether you want to sleep with him or not ( FYI I do) its not science just good old fashioned common sense.