My bestfriend and I started to date and its my biggest regret ever. We were so close but it just didnt work out and we both got really hurt in the process. I really want to get over him and get back to being good friends again but seeing as I work with him it's really hard. We have a lot of the same social circles so it isn't like I can just cut him out as I'd normally do. I really do want to get back to being close friends but I realise this is going to take time....I just don't know how to stop thinking about him and try and move on from him in that sense....any advice would be much appreciated! xx
2006-10-24 23:54:58 · 3 answers · asked by kawaii0fairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realise things can't be the same...but I'd like to still be friends without having all the what-ifs still there...
2006-10-24 23:59:54 · update #1
Well you won't be the same ever, but you can regain being close. Just take it slow. What my friend did when she was in your shoes was take off 3 months of being best friends and a couple and didn't avoid her ex, but made no effort to be with him. If they were at the same location, she would say hi and make small talk. After 3 or 4 months when both seemed over the initial hurt she called him and asked him if he wanted to go get coffee and catch up. It was awkward, but they both realized that they do make good friends, just horrible lovers. After a few weeks of catching up, things went back to normal. Or at least as normal as it can be.
Good Luck!
2006-10-24 23:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never be same again. It will give you more pain with time. better get away slowly and break all relations over time. Find some body else ASAP.
2006-10-25 00:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by mira m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey....i cud instantly relate to your situation becoz i have gone through the same thing...me and my best friend...one day suddenly confesse that we both have started liking each other...but it was only a day that we BOTH called it off...cuz we both felt uncomfy....
try and talk to that person...if that person is ok to be friendz again...its great...otherwise u guys cant make it anymore as frndz..its gonna be really tuff...all the best..i hope u do find a solution!
2006-10-25 00:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by sich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋