When I met my wife she was a really hot model type weighing about 115 at 5 ft 5 but now 5 and a half years later I am thinking of leaving her as she has gained nearly 20 pounds. (Sex feels like having a cow on top of you)
How do I tell her that if she doesn't lose weight I am leaving her for someone better.
2006-10-24 22:41:30 · 28 answers · asked by master_betty_101 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
for one its a sad and superficial world we love in. its funny how a guy can have a huge beer gut and we love them anyway on the other hand we gain and your ready to split quick and in a hurry. if you married her for her looks then you will be doing her a favor by leaving.
2006-10-24 22:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by tangela 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if she is 135 and 5ft5, then she is hardly overweight or a 'cow'. Secondly if you actually married your wife because you loved her and not because you thought she looked hot, then it wouldn't matter to you if she gained some weight. You are obviously a very superficial, empty person and to make it easy for you, you should should just leave and let her find a 'real' man. Trust me, you will never find better, because you'll always make the same mistake in finding some hot chick with a nice rack and then complain when her beauty fades. You are going to end up a very miserable old man, do you realise that? I'm sure your wife can do a hell of a lot better than someone as ugly inside as you. HTH.
2006-10-25 09:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up and smell the coffee, bubba.
Your wife isn't 'fat' at 5' 5" and 135. I'm 5' 4" and 125 and I'm considered to be on the light side of normal. Most charts I see say I should weigh between 130 and 140.
But if you think she's fat, then in your eyes, she is.
How are you looking these days?? Did you gain any weight over the years? Maybe she 'chunked up' because you did.
Try suggesting that you both go a diet because you're worried about your health.
You don't mention how old you two are, it could be a natural weight gain because of age. We all seem to slip on a few pounds as we age whether we work out or not.
2006-10-24 22:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you fell in love with a body and not the spiritual being within.
Please leave her. It is the best thing you could ever do for her. When you do know this. She will loose the weight for herself because she will find some sence of happiness within her and have some of her life back. Food does not make people fat....emotions do. This poor woman does not have to look good to suit everyone else. She knows where shes at, and she probably tries very hard and just fails you, because she is not able to make a choice to do it for herself.
I was once a 'beached whale' at 25 years old apparently according to my ex hubby. Eventually re- marrying to my best friend. He also had 'eyes' for the slim, but never once pressured me. Today, I am 43 yrs old and because of his eternal love I lost over 38 kilos (2.2lbs to a Kilogram) and did not do it with diet. I lost 38 kilos over 38 months, 1 kilo a month and it has never returned, even when I have been emotionally hurt in fact I now loose wait due to stress and have to make sure I 'do' eat.
Love and happiness brings balance to the body. I have proved it after years of doing diets for every one else. My Wedding Present from my first husband was 6 months at Jenny Craig.
Blah.
2006-10-24 22:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids together? When you got married was is not in sickness and in health? Didn't you know that once she starts having kids her body weight might change?
People are different, some people whether they eat less or not, they just gain weight. others can eat a lot but never gain weight.
Surely you can device some means or take her to a dietitian rather than leaving her. or probably uv just seen someone and now you are comparing her with that someone.
2006-10-24 22:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her an ultimatum, if you are such an as$hole, just leave, she'll be better off without you. So much for true love and those vows you took, huh? And I guess you yourself must be perfect. Good Luck finding that perfect girl who will always look a certain way you want, in fact, here's what you do. Go to Toys R Us, go to the doll section, get a Barbie doll, you can pick hair color, eye color, get what you want since you seem to be so picky. Take your doll home and cuddle with that. But you might want to leave it in the box, as soon as you take it out a hair might get out of place or she might lose a shoe, then she won't be so perfect anymore, and since you like perfection you'll have to throw her away and go buy a new doll. Kind of like how you are about to throw your wife away.
2006-10-24 22:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by nimo22 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So did u just marry her for her looks or did u marry the person herself? Remember that she has to lose the weight for herself, not for anyone else, otherwise it won't work.
With that said, u can try to be constructive about it instead of being critical. Maybe u can convince her to join a gym with u or find a physical activity u both can enjoy and do them together. U should make it a team effort, instead of just telling her to do it herself because losing weight is not easy for everyone.
2006-10-24 23:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One question for you, do you look exactly the same way you did when she met you. And also, maybe you should adjust your way of thinking, because a woman that ways 135 at 5ft 5, isn't anywhere near being a cow.
2006-10-24 22:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by darlintxdaisy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 135, and her height, she is far from fat...yeah, maybe she isn't as toned as you would like, but instead of leaving her, maybe you should try to work out with her or take some "extra" walks after dinner. You know what.......better yet, leave, some other guy will be fine with her size!
2006-10-24 22:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r an asshole u luv outer beauty not inner beauty i was also a model type 63 kgs 5,6 ,fair and beautiful.this was 6 years back.but u know what now i m 91 kgs but my husband loves me more than anything in this world.i m really very lucky that god has given me him.and i pity ur wife that she got an asshole.i wish i meet ur wife and advise her to leave u before u leave her.
2006-10-24 22:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by golu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and leave her...You sound like the biggest JERK in here...obviously your wife deserves someone much better than your scabby @$$. Sex isn't the only thing marriage is about, I take it you didn't marry her for love. Typically man...it's guys like you that make women hate the race of men. Please let the door hit your punk @$$ on the way out.
2006-10-24 22:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by gabbyx19 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋