How young is too young to get married?

Question

I am 20 (21 in January) and my boyfriend is 23 (24 in Feb), and we want to get married in 2 years time, when I'll be 22 and he'll be 25. Is this too young?

I don't think it is, as my mother had 2 children by the time she was 23 - I'm not saying I want kids, though!

What are people's opinions?

I do love my boyfriend very much, and want nothing more than to live with him and be with him forever. We have discussed marriage and children, and both agree on what we want.

I am not asking because the answers will make me either marry or not marry him - I just wanted people's opinion on the age thing.

I don't think we are too young. I don't like the answers 'if you're asking, you are too young or don't think its right' - that's not what I'm after here.

Answer 1

I think a lot of it depends on you. People are still growing up and changing all their lives but especially in their 20s I think as you work out what it is like to be an adult. Are you both prepared for this and prepared that each other will change?

I got married when I was 23, I was too young, still changing and learning and not really prepared to put the necessary effort and compromises into an adult relationship. The relationship inevitably failed.

I would talk and really listen to your mum, talk to her about her marriage and how hard it was in her twenties with a husband and two kids, listen to her talk about the sacrifices she made, the compromises she made, the regrets she has and the things she feels she has done right.

I would also advocate living together before marriage - moving in together is stressful and then after about 6 months you hit a roacky patch - see if you can get through that before making a life time commitment to each other.

On the whole though I would say why rush into marriage? Make sure you know each other inside out - can live with each others foibles as well as the good bits, make sure you both want the same things out of life before you commit.

At 34 and having been with my partner for almost 8 years I just about feel ready to marry him now feeling sure I am not repeating the mistakes I made first time around.

Answer 2

No i don't think its to young I'm getting married in may and i will be 23 b/f 24 . i have been engaged for 2 years (was meant to get married last year but due to family reasons it was put off so i would have been 22 )so go for it if you want to and don't listen to anyone else do what is in your heart and good luck

Answer 3

Have you lived and had enough fun? Have you had holidays with your girlfriends? Dated someone before this guy? Gone to festivals? etc. Perhaps that's not your thing, or perhaps you've done it all.

My only advice is to make sure you're 100% ready. Some people marry in their early 20's, then get to 30 and feel like they're restless and have missed out compared to their friends that married a little later on.

If you've got your wild side totally out of your system, then go for it and get hitched.

Answer 4

I don't think that's too young. My best friend just got married and she's only 22. Nothing wrong with getting married at that age. As long as you're mature enough for that kind of commitment. And just make sure you can afford it. lol.

Answer 5

if you both love each other and having considered marriage to be the meaningful thing to do then go ahead, but ensure you understand fully what you are letting yourself in for do not let yourself become yet another statistic of a failed marriage. personally to me marriage is nothing but a signature on a piece of paper, however to others it is a sign of commitment and being there for each other. my personal opinion is that you should live together for a year or two because that is how you truly learn what your other half is really like because you are spending a lot of time together. good luck

Answer 6

a super form of youthful couples sense the stress of staying mutually using fact there pals and family contributors use that line of I informed you so, or I knew which you 2 have been too youthful to get married interior the 1st place. So particular in a super form of circumstances youthful couples have pressures of staying mutually. Now if the couple is in love they might desire to be waiting to artwork accessible problems and pressures. Like in any relationships there is often stress it merely relies upon on how lots you and your companion can undergo....

Answer 7

marriage is for the matured and maturity is not measured by age the important factor to be considered is understanding and love.in as much u both think u're matured to face the world together then why not go ahead.but make sure there is a steady flow of income.i married a day to my 21yrs birthday.
good luck

Answer 8

i think you should consider yourself too young maybe in that two years you will not get married with him or maybe you get married and it whot last so you should think of getting a good job and having your own place and let the right time come for marriage but for now you are too young for that?please you have alot to do with your life rathan than thinking of marriage.i wish you all the best

Answer 9

One should never compair one person...to another.
Each is very different.
My brother married at 19...and now over 50 yrs later, he is still married.

But I think it does depend on the people who intend to marry.

Because I do not know you...if I say yes or even no...I would be
saying something...I have no idea about!
So you need to ask people who can really help you both.
All the very best.

Answer 10

As long as your happy and you are confident you have met "the one" then go ahead. Im going to get married in 2 yrs when im 24 and my chap 25.

As long as you are both sure of whatyou both want in life then its all good, if you have any doubts dont do it! Wait