okay. i love my bf and he loves me. i am 22 and he is 23 and almost 24. we go to the same university but have different majors, are each other's best friend and pillar or rock and we have had some really hard times in the past 14 months. i love this guy so much yet sometimes i doubt that he loves me for me! he fell in love with this happy, bubbly girl who never showed her problems and always put on a happy face even when times were tough like us taking a break- that was the person i was 8 months ago. that girl is gone sort of said in the sense that i had to go through 2 wrecks, had to rethink my life, had to take on more responsibility and now i cannot be the girl that i once was. i used to be so happy all the time but now it is like i did a 180 with my life and changed to the point of where my friends want their old friend back. what have i done actually trying to outdo myself and to mess up the best relationship that i have had!thsi guy has put up with me and life!help plz!thanks..
2006-10-24 22:18:17 · 8 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
right now he sees me stressed out at least once a day and is even worried for my health since i am gettimg minimal sleep and tonight i got none, that i am not doing so good in my classes and then that i am trying to outdo myself. i have always been an overachiever but this year something has got to give like it happened last year! i have what people call an easy major until you find out how many more credit hours you have left and it scares me! right now all i have on my mind is school,school and school and no plans for Friday,Sat, or Sunday as well as having a daily "TO-Do List" which keeps me on track with me getting all my work done. i am tired but cannot sleep, stressed therefore i eat junkfood which i hate at the worst hours and then go and work out for like an hour 2-3 times a week!i feel that next semester will be even more packed and jammed. i feel like i can do no right, imgoing to never catch up in school, and my bf wants the old me who was happy and not bitchy or snappy.
2006-10-24 22:26:32 · update #1
and by the way we have known each other since last August, share the same things in common yet are opposites-both good and bad-but we keep each other in check and he never gave up on me once-school, life, goals, whatever he was there to cheer me on and to make me strive for better. i am having a discussion with the head of the Biology dept. so that i might swap majors which would make me so happy!plus i am not depressed but i think of myself of a person who sometimes does not know their limits and overthinks things!
2006-10-24 22:45:09 · update #2
stop thinking so much, and don't analyze everything. If you feel like things are getting too much, take a step back a breather wouldn't go astray either and relax. Don't do anything until your mellow. GL
2006-10-24 22:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. i love my bf and he loves me. i am 22 and he is 23 and almost 24. we go to the same university but have different majors, are each other's best friend and pillar or rock and we have had some really hard times in the past 14 months. i love this guy so much yet sometimes i doubt that he loves me for me! he fell in love with this happy, bubbly girl who never showed her problems and always put on a happy face even when times were tough like us taking a break- that was the person i was 8 months ago. that girl is gone sort of said in the sense that i had to go through 2 wrecks, had to rethink my life, had to take on more responsibility and now i cannot be the girl that i once was. i used to be so happy all the time but now it is like i did a 180 with my life and changed to the point of where my friends want their old friend back. what have i done actually trying to outdo myself and to mess up the best relationship that i have had!thsi guy has put up with me and life!help plz!thanks..
love u
2006-10-25 05:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by newton_2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus,
You are such a girl.
Drama.
At 22 you shouldnt be in a serious relationship, just look at your words (problems)?
The good news is that you are like EVERY other chick with nearly the exact same words:
"he fell in love with this happy, bubbly girl who never showed her problems and always put on a happy face even when times were tough"
If I had a hundred dollars for every time i heard this tale.
2006-10-25 05:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does not sound like it's a "Fault" thing on your part. PEOPLE change as they experience new things - remember: bad or good experiences can and do change your outlook and perspective on things....BUT never change who you are deep down. True enough there may be parts of you that you are not even aware are there and some experiences can bring those traits to the surface.
Embrace how you WANT to BE and make strides in being that person. It is ok to cry and ok to laugh.... you can not be the "bubbly chick" all the time..... listen to your body and emotions will guide you.
If you think you are depressed (and millions of people have depression and do not even know it) talk to your doctor..... there are some simple activities and even meds that can help....Everyone goes through tough times at times. HANG IN THERE AND NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!
2006-10-25 05:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tragedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my wife for 9 years (5 married) and in that time I've aged from 17 to 26.
You're inevitably going to change over the course of time and someone that you're madly in love with one year might just be sorta blah the next.
Take things one day at a time for now and take a look at the big picture in the future to see where you 2 are headed.
2006-10-25 05:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like cheerful girls. A relationship is founded by mutual underst
anding,but it's governed by cheerfulness and toleration. As you may
-may not-know, women are the essence of a liaison and most of the
times they rule this affair. So, try be more cheerful next time, or find
a more calm guy. Don't just be attracted only by physical appearan ce. Check out if you both fit to each other's character!
Ciao......John-John.
2006-10-25 05:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont know if this will help but here is what i think.
True friend will stick by you no matter what. I think that you have matured allot, one thing that i learned is that the friends that i had when i use to club and drink are no longer my friends because i stopped all that crap, so they arent true friends.
About your bfriend, if he loves you for who you are then he will stick by you through thick and thin, no matter if you have changed, he should be the one person that knows you for who you really are.
2006-10-25 05:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-25 05:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋