I have been dating my bf for a 3 years. I told him when we first got together that on his 21 birthday. I would act out one of his fanasty. I figured it is just one time. He has one fanasty is about me being with a women and him watching. I love him more then anything and he loves me. Am I crazy to do this?
2006-10-24 22:15:56 · 16 answers · asked by lildragonsim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know I think it is every guy's dream to have this happen.
I Have a lot of respect for your willingness to do bring your boyfriends fantasy to life and your not crazy.
I can understand from possibly your prospective your conserns and fears of doing so. However, he has know well in advance that its a one time deal unless of course you like it and are willing to partake more than once. but just in the event that you only want to do it just once to give him that one thing he has to understand that its one time and that you don't want it to ruin your relationship with him because it would only be one time. any ways enjoy.
2006-10-24 22:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after you've broken up with him are you going to regret this choice to sleep with another woman while he watched??? hmmm Didn't think of that. The only advice I have is this.. Never do what is right for others .. only whats right for you. Of course it would be nice for him to "watch" but how long do you really think hes gonna watch, before he asks to join?? Men are visual creatures.. what we see is what we want. If he sees you naked in bed having sex with another woman he will soon want to join and have sex with both of you. If your not willing to live with the fact you had sex with some one for another person and not your desires, then why do it?? Would he let you have sex with another man while he watched ?? Didn't think so ultimately it's all up to you and no matter what we say can affect something you've already decided against. The fact you asked the question is the answer already.. Don't do it.
2006-10-25 05:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by R J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not love. That is perverted! I don't care how many guys like that kind of thing it is perverted. Sex should between a man and woman. See what he says if he will do it with a man and you watch. Vourism is a psychological disorder. 10-1 he will be repulsed by the idea revealing he is not fair and needs to control his fantasies.
2006-10-25 05:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Search4truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In theory it's sexy but in reality it's scary.
Introducing a 3rd party into the relationship even once can possibly be destructive.
You're not crazy to do it but consider the consequences before making the action.
2006-10-25 05:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're crazy to do anything that you don't truly want to do. It will be damaging to yourself, and will likely give him the wrong idea about you and what you will tolerate just to hold on to a relationship. If he truly loved you, he would not want you to do anything that you might feel is wrong but are willing to do just to satisfy his fantasies.
2006-10-25 05:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel uncomfortable doing it, than no. A relationship is about compromise and sacrifice, but not at the point of compromising yourself. If it's the other way around, i'd have to wonder why he wants to see you with another girl. Why you arent enough to satisfy him.
2006-10-25 05:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by chance m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend thinks this little of you I'd say "run" why would he do this, is he/you into kinky things?
This is repulsive and I think he should get another life. Somethings missing in this relationship. Everyone has fantasies but, really, for real, never.
2006-10-25 05:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about monogamy in the relationship, ive seen introducing a 3rd person to a good relationship F it all up... tell him thats not a fair one.. unless you are into that then screw it you only live once.. it sounds pretty hot tho
2006-10-25 05:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by bootleg_310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for you. You have to file that memory away to take with you. Be honest with yourself and you will know.
Would you like it or regret it.
How could it change your relationship?
Personally, I wouldn't want to see my wife with anyone else.
2006-10-25 05:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by B Low 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a good idea. 3rd person means all sorts of complications. It's up to you of course but I think you'll find that things will change irreversibly
2006-10-25 05:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋