If your sister/sister in law had no baby would you let her adopt yours?

Question

I am just wondering how much one would do for their sister or brother or family relative who couldn't have a child.
Both my husband and I are childless and my SIL is unhappilly pg
with her fifth?
She knows of our pain, it would be lovely if she allowed us to adopt her son/daughter.
Would you do this for a relative?
I am curious as to what others would do. thanks.

Answer 1

No i wouldn't. They've created a family and for them to pass on their children to someone else is pathetic. If you want to have a family with more that just you and your spouse, adopt an orphan or select a segregate mother to carry your child. But to break up another relatives' family while the parents are still alive is brutal and cruel. You can't make your siblings' child love you even if they favour you more than their own parents. The only time that my child/ren would end up with someone else is if i died and there was no-one else capable enough to care for them.

Answer 2

Have you talked to your brother and SL about this?
Children weather planed or unplanned are not a thing that you can just give away.It is an extremely hard decision to make.
I have 4 children my sister did not have any.She was much richer then I.While one of my daughters was on a vacation with her.My sister called me up and asked to adopted her.I said no.She could not understand since I had 3 other children why I could not part with one.Needless to say that was the last time any of them went on vacation with her.
The best way is to sit down and talk to them.Or you could consider adopting one of the thousands of children all ready seeking a loving parent.

Answer 3

No way. Putting myself in your place, I would be content with my given situation of not having a child of my own. I would not adopt a child who has known parents, whether the parents are happy or not and no matter what my relationship with the parents is. If I am desperate about raising a child - it is not for the sake of the child, it is to satisfy myself - to fill the vacuum in MY life - I would go to an orphanage and adopt a child who does not have a known parent.

Answer 4

When I was pregnant with my first son at 16yrs old I had to decide what to do . My Aunt (my moms sister) at the time was having trouble getting pregnant I was willing to let her adopt my son. What happened though was right before I had my son my aunt found out she was pregnant. Now are sons are close like brothers.

Answer 5

I would not, but I love my kids. Maybe your SIL would because she is unhappily pregnant. If you do adopt her baby, make sure you get all the legal papers so she can not cause problems later if years down the road she changes her mind or has a problem with you.

Answer 6

Hi, I am a very very fertile single mother and also very very fortunate to have kids, at the moment I am due for birth shortly for the twins and have always had a heart for the unfortunate women who are unable to conceive and if I was a sister, I would definitely give mine knowing she is flesh and blood and that blood is thicker than water

Answer 7

I probably would if I had twins or other multiple-births.
But not if I only had 1.
On a lighter side, you can have 1 of mine. Now that they're grown , I wish someone would take em' off of my hands. lol
Good Luck !

Answer 8

i don't think its a good idea, since the real parents would want a say in how the child is raised. and I think its really selfishly cruel of you to even think that your sister would just hand over one of her children to you.

Answer 9

I would right now...just because she is married...and has been tryin for so long...and i know she would be able to provide for it better than i can...and i would rather be the cool aunt...instead of the mom....

Answer 10

actually and sadly no