am i too ugly to attract girls?

Question

it seems girls just see straight past me (or perhaps over me, im only 5"6) and dont seem to really notice me at all. if i approach them, they will generally walk away or lose interest quite quickly. i go out quite often, and do activities that girls apparently like (ie play guitar, sport, write music) however this still seems to not create interest. i am 21, short, have obvious freckles covering the majority of my pale body, am very hairy (covers my back and chest, and also some on my shoulders), bad teeth. these are the reasons i have in my mind to explain the girls lack of interest in me. i have never had a proper gf and have had virtually no self esteem for as long as i can remember. i am becoming more and more embarassed by this and really dont know what to do? i have gone for new hair styles, new clothes etc, but still just cant seem to do anything to get out of this train of thought (difficult when you hate who you see in the mirror every day). how do i reverse this thinking?

Answer 1

you are unique! there is no one else like you in the whole world!!! confidence is the key. there are loads of unusal looking celebs (in bands etc) and they have gorgeous girlfriends!!! its all about the confidence. And not all girls are superficial. most would go for the PERSON inside (well I hope!) and the superficial one are not worth worrying about - not worth the effort.

Answer 2

First, you need to see a dentist and have your bad teeth taken care of. That's a big turnoff to all girls. You're not too short and you seem to have talent with the guitar and writing music. So I suspect it's the teeth that are doing you in. I don't know if you are familiar with the UK comedian Ronnie Corbett. He's pretty old now but he's been acting since he was very young. He has a series on PBS right now called Sorry. He's only 5'1" tall and has been happily married to the same woman for 41 years and has 2 daughters. So develop your self-confidence and talent, have the teeth fixed and you will notice a big difference.

Answer 3

Well, we all have flaws, none of us are perfect. You could be letting negative thoughts about yourself, cause you to act out what you think and feel,and send out negative vibes, although it is good to know your weak points, and to work deligently to correct and improve what you can, but you must start first, by loving yourself, regardless of how others act, or react to you. Now the teeth, what can you do to improve them? are they really all that bad? because I do agree that a pretty smile is just as important for a guy as it is for a young Lady. Start thinking positive about yourself,You`re not any more ugly than many of the guys I see with the prettiest girls, in fact it seems most pretty girls go more for the not so handsome guys. Look in the mirrow and practice smiling with your mouth closed until you can get dental help, Be confident, look the ladies in the eyes, when you talk or smile at them, this should cause them to blush, and not notice or even care about any of the things you are worried about, like how short you are, Don`t act like you are desparate to find a girl.Keep well groomed and dressing well, but.. build up your "Character" and Self Esteem, always act like you`ve got it going on, "but don`t over do it", most girls don`t like it when a guy is acting like they`re too much, or "all that". You don`t have to be tall in height, If you are a real Gentleman, it makes you 6`ft. tall to nice girls who respects and value a man who cares. You can be that man, Loving and caring, and the girls "who don`t respect that" Why even bother wasting time with them anyway? Get a positive grip on yourself, You will find the proper gf. I`m sure of it, correct what you can, anything else, Just say "take me as I am" or, "Leave me be". You can do this.

Answer 4

Is this a joke or are you for real? Damn, God f*ucked you over big time lol. =D Anyways, two words, plastic surgery. With all of the new technology today, I am sure they can photo-shop your face to make it presentable. And No, not all women like it when a guy plays guitar, or sit on there ass all day writing music, they call that a bum with a broken dream.

Just go out with guys who seem to have all the girls, or stock them to see why girls find them to be so attractive. Then do what they do. It should work. Good look and may God bless you.

Answer 5

Everyone has some form of beauty, I'm sure so do you. 5'6" is not bad at all, unless you aim for 6ft blondes - who tend to like little guys? :)
Practically, I'd get my teeth fixed, bad breath can ruin it big time and it makes you look dirty. Brush and hopefully find a decent dentist to sort them out if you think you need to.
You might want to wax your back and arms but this is minor, some women like hair and men don't always care to wax.
Pale isn't always ugly and freckles can be cute.

I wonder... do you do all those activities to appeal to women or because you like them? Only do something for yourself, not because others will approve because it always shows that you're putting on an act.
Women, like most human beings, like nothing better than people showing interest in them. Start by friendship, love and attraction cannot be forced but a friendship can do volumes to your self esteem.

And heads up, you're taller than most girls ;)

Answer 6

I have low self-esteem too. But I'm not a bad looking guy (I'm not "hot" either though.) I know where youre coming from. If you can sing and play guitar, use it! Put up a front that you have confidence, and eventually you'll trick yourself in to feeling good about yourself. Also, don't shoot for girls that you know are out of you're league, unless you are feeling really brave. Be realistic about the people who would consider being with you. Well thats worked for me. Good luck

Answer 7

Do you want to learn how to attract the women you want even if you aren't that good looking? Do you constantly get thrown into the friends category but never GET WHAT YOUR REALLY WANT? the fact is women are probably more repelled by your negative attitude than your looks, there are plenty of "ugly" men going out with beautiful women, just look around! I can only tell you so much but if you were to go out and buy a book called "the game" by Neil Strauss it will get you on the right path and good luck!

Answer 8

First, become comfortable with yourself. Your self esteem could sure use a boost. Try counselling, it will do wonders for you.

Second, allow yourself time to grow into your look. I never felt attractive through most of my twenties, and now in my thirites I get a lot of people who tell me that I am VERY handsome, including a well-known Beverly Hills plastic surgeon who practically invented Botox.

Third, also know that for every look, there is a person who is attracted to it. I knew a guy who went forn 180 to over 300 pounds in a matter of a few years, and he is much more comfortable with himself as a bigger guy. He seems to get a lot of dates, despite his weight.

So, my advice is: Broaden your horizons. I'm sure there is some fine young woman out there who will be just crazy nuts about you.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Maybe, it is your approach. Not all girls date based on looks. When you really click with someone, it doesnt matter how he looks, you will love him for him. My boyfriend isnt the best looking guy but when you get past that and get to know him, you realize just how awesome he is.Plus, it could also be where you are looking. Where are you looking? These females are obviously very shallow and I wouldnt worry about them. You are stil young and have plenty of time. Also, freckles are not ugly. Hair is a major turn off for most women.

Answer 10

Truthfully, you need to change yourself, but be yourself all at the same time. Do what you can to change things about yourself that you are unsatisfied with, not what the girls are unsatisfied with. I had to do the same thing a while ago. My teeth use to be crooked. It was nothing i could do about it at the time, so i went on being myself. Still the majority of girls were'nt interested in me as a boyfriend, but they did accept me as a friend. The more time i hung around them, the better i got to know about them(Girls in general). At least this experience gave insight into their thinking.


P.S. Another step towards improvement would be to stop viewing every girl as a potential girlfriend. Instead look at them as just another human being.

Answer 11

dont worry, you will find a girl, who does not care about looks.
Most of the girls like men with sense of humour, able to fix something at home etc..
What is your hobbies ? You know, find a girl with similar interests, be good at something (sport, knowledge of something, sex, drivin car, whatever).
Body hair, you can easily shave or trim. Bad teeth, fix it or just leave it. Try internet connections to meet woman. Yeah, us girls. If you d go to europe, you find a lot of better chicks, who dont care about look and image. American is full of huge people (6 feet or more), europe is smaller as well.
Also you save a lot of money on xmas gifts and ladies stuff, that is an advantage. :)
Be proud and dont give a **** about spoiled girls, who dont notice you. I dont like proud and selfish people. What do those princesses wish for ? What do they offer ? Nothing, maybe cute face and small ass. Dont talk to them, like you need their attention, the worse you treat them, more they love you.
(ali g is right in this). A lot of women fell in love with assholes. But they are not worthy !!! better to be alone then with some selfish, stupid and unfaithful girl.