I'm a pretty shy girl and I got the courage to go talk to this guy that I always see who works at my school. When I approached him, even though we always make eye contact and I say hi or smile he got all shifty eyed which in turn made me shifty eyed and it just felt like an awkward conversation. Now it feels wierd when we see eachother and he seems to have changed his study area all the sudden which I dont think is just a coincidence. I see him all the time and I really dont want things to be wierd, do you guys think I should try harder to be myself and chat with him or does he think I'm creepy or something? I'm totally not!
2006-10-24 20:19:44 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from what you are expressing,
you are already uncomfortable.
he's not interested.
you let him know you were available,
he changed his geography.
hey baby , it's his loss , not yours.
fine tune your skills and move on to another conquest !
move on !
good luck.
2006-10-24 20:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by john john 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good approach, I think, would be to walk up to him and say, "Listen, that first meeting of ours was wierd! Did you notice all the shifty eyed stuff - it has freaked me out and I'd like to start over, 'cause that's just NOT me!" and laugh.. laughter will break the tension, honesty will release the need for avoidance, and bang! You have a new start. Now just don't get shifty-eyed again. If you find it happening mention it right out - say "hey - here we go again!" and laugh. It does work.
2006-10-25 03:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm shy too. and it is very hard for me to even see the guy I like when that happens, I tend to just avoid him. But I did have a crush, and I got the currage to talk to a guy, didn't have much choice though, I kinda had to, he was my teacher. I was completely freaked out when he was around me, shaking a lot, and he did notice that something was going on with me and even asked about it. I came up with a lame excuse. I do not think though that he thought I was wierd.
Just relax, be yourself, and just talk to him on casual topics. Tell him a joke if it is the right moment for it. Say hi when you see him and ask how it is going. Or maybe drop a book when you walk passed him so he can pick it up for you, and then say thank you to him.
2006-10-25 03:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that I would suggest is finding some common ground between the two of you (but do it in a way that doesnt make it seem like you are stalking him because that would be creepy). Then just be you. If he is interested, it will be obvious. The less you act like you, the more you increase your chances of messing up and coming off like a goof ball. Good luck!!
2006-10-25 03:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by jessereczek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly just be your self. Start a conversation with him, but keep it short until you see how he is responding. Just show him you are not creepy. Once you start talking to him by acting like your own true self he will probably come around, and start conversations with you. I know it can be hard for a person who is naturally shy. But if he does not respond. It is his loss. Just move on and be your self around people.
Good Luck.
2006-10-25 03:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you're not creepy! dont let some lame guy start making you second guess yourself. he sounds like a lame guy cos he didnt make the first move. either he's not that into you or he has no social skills. either way let it go. not worth the humilliation if he gives you bat. AND if he IS into you he'll eventually pluck up the courage (one can alway hope he will anyway :)
2006-10-25 03:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, heh, well how was the conversation I mean what was said? Women can tend to read to much into the wrong things sometimes, I would suggest just from what you have said so far ask him if there is a problem between the two of you. Just be straight up.
-NmD!
2006-10-25 03:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by try harder to be yourself.....you shouldnt try to be yourself it should come naturally.......and if this boy likes you then he is gonna accept who you are and what you are all about....dont forget to never change and dont ever allow others to change what they dont like about you because then you will be just loosing your identity and the person you are.
2006-10-25 03:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just go up n talk to him to make things not creepy maybe if u talked to him for a while he would see ur not creepy
2006-10-25 03:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ease into it a little more...a full on conversation might be too much at first.
2006-10-25 03:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋