hey guys, i need your advice, do u think i should send the person that i like this e-mail? plz read it?

Question

we started chating online and i like her, i asked her if we should meet and she said she's gonna think about it, and i also asked for her picture, which she sent, and i also sent her my picture, the following is the e-mail she sent me and the reply i sent her, do you think i did the right thing?

Hi there,hope i'm not bothering you.You won't believe what happened! i wrote so well it seemed like a miracle.It was evrything we discussed in the class,you don't know how excited i am to be relieved at last,only one subject left.

I've been thinking about what you said last time.I need to tell you something.The pic that i sent is not me,i honestly didn't have a pic of myself then.I look nothing like that.I'm new to this chat thing so i was a bit sceptical about it at first.Evrything is true about me except for that.Eish i feel so bad for doing that to you,pls forgive me.The other thing i'm not sure about you coming here,it doesn't seem right.Let's give it some time.You see i only wanted a friend,i don want us to rush.

If you want us not to continue anymore ,it doesn't matter(that will be fine with me).As much as i wanted to be your friend so much(i enjoyed chatting to u so much & i felt so relieved after chatting to you,your honesty & sweet msgs) it's gonna be a problem for me.I'm very sorry for wasting your time.Bye


Hi, I'm glad that you wrote well, i knew you were gonna do it, one more exam and you are home free, keep up the good work and continue studying hard.

I understand that you only want a friend and i honestly respect that, i don't want to pressure you into anything, you should do something because you want to do it, not because someone tells you to. But what i don't understand is why you lied about your picture, i mean you could have told me that you are not ready to show me how you look like, I think that's better than lying, the problem i have is a lot of people have lied to me time and time again, including my ex-girlfriend, she also took advantage of me by lying to me, and when someone lies to me, then it means that that person is taking me for granted and doesn't respect me. I liked you because i though you were a genuine person, i'm not so sure anymore. You have to understand that i value trust and honesty very highly.

Your last sentance "As much as i wanted to be your friend so much it's gonna be a problem for me", i'm not sure if you are saying its gonna be a problem if you are my friend or if it's gonna be a problem if you are not my friend. And it seems to me that you don't want us to continue chatting anymore "that will be fine with me".

I know that you only want a friend and i can be that friend, what i want is an honest person, that's all. I hope we can still chat tomorrow so we can discuss this further.

Good luck with your last exam tomorrow, you are gonna do great.

Till next time.

Answer 1

Be every careful about meeting any one on line. Be sure to meet in a public place. This could be roose for a creepy person.

Answer 2

You sound a bit harsh in this reply. She already felt bad in giving you a false picture, I think she may feel more guilty reading this. Although you are explaining how you feel when people lie to you, you are indirectly bringing up the situation where she lied to you about the picture. Depending on how she can take it, it will impact how she felt about the lie. Perhaps you can soften the write-up.

Quoted from your write-up, the paragraph below seems harsh as she will think that she has taken you for granted and disrespect you. Also the part on "i'm not so sure anymore" makes her feel that she has disappointed you greatly and you now have a bad impression on her.
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"she also took advantage of me by lying to me, and when someone lies to me, then it means that that person is taking me for granted and doesn't respect me. I liked you because i though you were a genuine person, i'm not so sure anymore. You have to understand that i value trust and honesty very highly."
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Normally people who use a false picture are not so confident about their own appearance. In my own opinion and experiences, good looking people are always keen to show others their best picture, nothing to hide, etc. I'm sorry to say this but I had this type of experience before, where the girl shown me a different picture and when I met up with her, I was shocked & disappointed. This is just my opinion, but I hope she is different (more beautiful than you expect) in your case.

Answer 3

it is long BUT if she cant show you a pic and does not want to meet now --- i hate to say it but could it be a guy pretending --- just having fun at your expense

if she is genuine it sounds like she is backing away --- so stay in contact if you want leave the door open but dont get your hopes up

Answer 4

well you say you really like her - do you really mean as a friend or are you hoping for something more? Coz if you are - I dont think its gona happen
She sounds kinda un-genuine to me and being honest if someone said to me that they werent bothered about not hearing from me again - Id be like fine - and wouldnt bother with them - she obviously doesnt value you as much as you do her. xx

Answer 5

it's way too long. i didn't have the patience to read it. you need to knock that down to 2 short paragrpahs (4 to 5 sentences per paragraph) and leave it at that. at the current length, it seems like the rantings of a crazy person. :-)

Answer 6

hey, if you really like her just be open enough to express your thoughts and emotions.

let her feel that inspite of it, you still want to pursue your friendship wuth her.. and willing to wait whenshe ready to give you a pic of herself..

just continue with ur communication.. y not call her up? its better if you hear each others voice, since it would reflect your emotions.. you'll find out if she's really sincere.

=)

you can do it, and you know it.

Answer 7

Well written. Try to forget the picture thing and continue ur frendship. She's honest enough to admit it and even gave her reasons. Goodluck.

Answer 8

just let it go. she's probably thinking up another lie as i write this. mature people would not feel the need to lie. why would you want to be friends with a liar? i wouldn't even bother sending her an e-mail

Answer 9

Good reply, quite impressive, polite and concise.

Answer 10

Very nice, classy reply. Send it.