I have been "dating" this man for about 2 months and knew that he had 3 children. A few nights ago, he tells me that he doesn't have 3 he now has 4 and that the 4th one he has custody of! Supossidly, he claims to have told me about all 4 but I don't recall that...I would remember 4 kids in the picture! Now I love kids and have no issues with them, however I am confused on what to do about him lying to me about this 4th child. This is the 3rd time I have caught him in a lie and....oh yea...he has cheated all ready. What do I do...I really care about him but I don't like lying. Help!!!
2006-10-24 19:50:40 · 16 answers · asked by bek1995 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He hurt you once, his fault; he hurt you twice, your fault. Know why? Because you stayed.
He's a liar, and cheater. Why are you even with him? He's counting on your low-self esteem to keep you hanging on to him. He won't change. He never will. Why do you think he has four kids and he's not with them.
You'll just be a new baby mama of his fifth kid while he dates other women. Is that what you want?
Leave him. Get out with some friends. Stop calling him, or stop taking his calls. Change your number if you have to. Make a clean break. Move and change numbers if you have to. He'll keep depending on your "weakness" for him. He's using you!
2006-10-24 20:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in 3 relationships, all three cheated on me. Twice. I left the 2nd time. Is there anything wrong with me? Maybe. Definitely because I gave all these cheaters another chance. Look, the first time is his fault, the second time is YOUR FAULT and the third time, YOU PHOCKEN ASKED FOR IT! Yup. And it totally ruined my mindset of trust in men, so now all the guys I date, they hate my past. I give all these men such a hard time, most of them end up leaving. You should leave before you ruin your future relationships. Trust me, I know it's hard hearing it from a girl on the internet, but I don't know your age, however, you getting into a relationship with 4 children that doesn't belong to you. In the future you might want some of your own with this guy, however he is paying child support for FOUR CHILDREN already, how can he afford the 5th and the 6th.. Something to think about, no? Be strong and confident, good things will come to good people. Best wishes.
2006-10-24 20:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this man is a liar. You don't like lying. Caring for a man who lies is the same as enjoying living with a liar (and a cheater). So, you either decide you like lying (and cheating), or you get as far away from him as you possibly can, as quickly as you can.
NO WOMAN HAS EVER CHANGED A MAN WHO IS A LIAR AND A CHEATER.
And he won't change because he "loves" you either...because if there was any spark of love for you in this man, he wouldn't have already been lying and cheating!
2006-10-24 20:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has serious issues and you need to decide if this is way you want to go for the rest of your life
ive lied so much over years but i now have a lady that i dont lie to would never cheat on and love to death
it may be time to move on
2006-10-24 19:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So the cheating is ok but you don't like the lying??It seems like it should be a common sense answer here honestly. Why be with someone who would lie and cheat, do you not have any more respect for yourself than that? You can do better right?, so why not go and do better for yourself!
-NmD!
2006-10-24 19:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is EASY!!! LEAVE!!! NOW!!! Hon, if he has cheated and lied to you he is NOT worth it... don't waste your time, becuase that is what you are doing. Get out now. Once a cheater always a cheater, same with lying.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 19:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's only been two months and he's already done that stuff to you, get out of it now. it'll only get worse. i have experience in this and it never changes exspecially if it occurs in two months! you can do so much better. find someone who will treat you with the same respect that you give.
2006-10-24 19:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by batman's kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go. What else is he not telling you? His lying to you is also his lying to himself. Your limitations must be respected. Lying is not acceptable.
2006-10-24 20:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out honey. you can do way better! cheated already........ have you thought about your health? do you have any idea how many peoply have stds these days! you need to take care of yourself. if you let him stick around your going to regreat it. good luck!
2006-10-24 19:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh for crying out loud! Just get some self esteem and get the hell out. Sheesh!
2006-10-24 19:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋