I want to stop caring about what other people think of me. About society. About religion. About what causes pain. I want to be alone and stop wishing I was somewhere else or with someone who understood. I want freedom from worries, desires, hate and unesecary emotions. Please dont say counseling or drugs. Ive tried both and they are only temporary solutions.
2006-10-24 19:45:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you get what you want, you will have sacrificed all "freedom to" for the sake of "freedom from". How about getting free of all compulsions instead. Be free to appreciate what is real instead of running away from it.
What people think of you isn't real. It's the illusion you experience when you think about what someone else might be experiencing - concerning you. Try being the looker instead of the looked-at. Total freedom! I'm not kidding. It works.
2006-10-24 19:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few techniques:
Think of the world as one huge broadway play, and everyone has a part to play- when you run across someone or something particulary important, simply consider it as part of the production
and don't get personally upset by it. Some telemarketer calls you at dinner? Hmmm, how well is he playing the role of being annoying- could he have timed the call better?
Also consider that *if* the universe simply follows rules of cause & effect, then it's all really quite irrelevant. Whatever we see, do or don't do is simply the inevitable result of our responding to stimulus. Our decision-making is also governed by these rules, so there's never any point in second-guessing youself. You examine your choices, make a decision and realize that that's the ONLY conclusion you could have come to, under the circumstances. Were you in that same situation again, you'd make the same choice- that's what it means to be YOU.
While we don't have control over every event which affect us, you are always free to choose your reaction to whatever life throws your way. So when the bill for $1000 in car repairs or overdue loans arrives, you can either be upset, or not break stride and continue enjoying your lunch. The bill will be there regardless, so there's no point in wasting time with negative emotional reactions.
2006-10-25 03:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by Proto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just know that God loves you. Try believing in God. That worked for me. And don't stop caring, caring is a good thing! It means that you are sensitive and have a heart. It means that you are intelligent, and have an objective mind, which enables you to judge right from wrong, a very important quality to have in this crazy era. I know this life we are in is hard, it is freaking hard, the hardest thing ever. What worked for me after 22 years of suffering with uncertainty, is God. Just say a little prayer to him right now. Ask him for something, he will give it to you. What do you need? What do you want? You don't even need a Bible, or a church, or a cross or anything superficial like that, trust me, he is MUCH more than that. That is religion if you would like to know, and religion is fake. God is something special only you and him know about, no one else. You don't need to share it with anybody, it is something private. I pray to him when I am scared, because I get scared a lot, and I am comforted. He is waiting for you to give him all your burdens, so you can rest.
2006-10-25 03:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start being really selfish don't be mean but think WHAT DO I WANT FROM THIS LIFE? IT'S MINE AND I'M GOING TO DO SOMEHTING BIG" Drugs will not help so I'm glad you're off them. Ask your self why do you care? You probobly care cause that's the way you've been brought up. When you know what you really want from this life then you'll stop worrying about what people think about you. But don't be mean and dont push everyone away.
2006-10-25 02:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop caring completely about life in general because this is what basically makes you human.. My husband when he is really worried and agitated takes it out in the gym or jogging.. Do exercise of some sort, help with a charity.. work hard or harder until you are that exhausted and happily tired, you will have no time to think about yourself and your worries.. just do the best you can.. that is all you can do.. :)
2006-10-25 02:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only someone who does not care would be in a position to give you the answer you wish. Since they would then not care enough, may I simply suggest that caring and hurting are part of the human experience. What you need to do is get to the point of accepting that relationships, people, everything- has an ebb and a flow. At times of Ebb, it is difficult to cope, but thankfully not everything "ebbs" at the same time, so one has to shift focus to those things which are flowing when others aren't. Hope I make sense.
You must take time to appreciate your own company, and this can only be done by suffering yours own company until you enjoy it. Take yourself to places where you feel peaceful. Read books that inspire and uplift you and give you worthy, wonderful things to think about.
I want to be alone only with that someone who fully understands me, but that isn't going to happen very soon, so I try to find things that I enjoy delving into - it could be anything for you - the internet, a bookshop that you start visiting regularly just to sit, have a cup of coffee and read. It could be a botanical garden or nursery that you want to walk in- but you need to identify what it is you love to spend time doing alone. Then do those things whenever you start focussing too much on the outside. The inside will nurture you and give you the strength to stand.
For me, prayer helps. I lay flat on the ground, at God's feet and weep my misery to him. I have a good sob and a good self-pity session which only he could stomach, and then I get up and go do something for ME... yesterday, I took myself to the beauty salon, and just squeezed every moment of peace from that. Then I was able to focus again on work.
Which points me to another thing- if you aim to look good (by knowing what you feel you look best in) then that gives you confidence to smile, and suddenly little things don't seem so important.
2006-10-25 02:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the question you have posted shows you are caring but your caring gives you this problems prove you are not sincere enough when you give do not expect anything in return,you will experience lot of satisfaction,if you give with sincerity you will not care what others think or say,keep on caring with love you will reap your happiness,this world will be a better place with more of these people good luck
2006-10-25 03:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by tan e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Die, or go catatonic for the rest of your life. Sorry, I don't mean to sound crude there but it's true. You will always care at some point, even if you are sociopathic.
2006-10-25 02:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by synchronicity915 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As humans, caring about all those things is normal, and I think we ALL do it. I'm not sure if there's a way to completely stop it... maybe you should try to adjust to it.
2006-10-25 02:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, I am the sameway.. Just occupy your mind with other stuff, like a book or a good movie
2006-10-25 02:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by Little_Lilth 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋