me and my husband moved in with my mil 2 yrs. ago. She stole $400 from us, our only wedding photo(they were destroyed in a fire) and some other things. My mother had just come out of the hospital where she almost died and my mil came over cursing at my mother telling her she saw me with another man. (which was a lie) she has hated me from the day we met. she would always talk about how skinny she was and how big her boobs were in front of me. i guess to try to get me jealous. My husband doesn't want to talk to her and wants to cut off all ties with her until she can become more of a mother. we dont live with her anymore. and she hasnt come to visit us in 2 yrs! do u think its bad to cut off ties with her? without her in our life we are very happy. We dont have someone trying to ruin our marriage anymore. i know its his mom but what kind of mom steals from her own son? what would you do?
2006-10-24 19:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you and your husband are doing fine without her, then keep it that way,stay away from her she is trouble...............if it doesn't bother your husband then don't let it bother you. After all he knows the real her. Right now your marriage is more important then trying to get along with her. Who wants to be friendly with someone who steals from their own family and tells lies about them? She's doing you a big favor by staying away, no great loss on your part. Let her go ruin someone else's marriage. You have your mom and nothing can be more important that too.
2006-10-24 19:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by lisa b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation. Not the stealing part, but the not speaking for years. He needs to try to have a relationship with his mom. He needs to make an effort. If she doesn't want to have a relationship with him then at least he knows he tried. A very serious near death experience brought my husband & his mom back together. I get along with her because of him. I do not hate her, but we are not friends. We are friendly to each other when we are around each other. I make sure she sees my baby at least once a month, but I don't go when my husband takes him to visit. You just have to work something out some way some how to have his mom in his life even if it's just casual, b-day & Christmas card or something like that. Something that lets her know that he cares without being too close if he doesn't want to get too close to her.
2006-10-24 19:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, mothers of sons are NIGHTMARES. I have had 2 mothers in law who were complete nut jobs. My current partners mother is a psycho who rang us up and told my partner that he had to choose between me and her. He chose me and she flipped out and left about 10 messages on our answering machine all filled with hate about me saying she was going to ring my work and get me sacked (I know v.strange!). Knowing these 2 women and the awful experiences has helped me to realise that in life not everyone is meant to get along and that is ok. We dont have anything to do with my partners mum (his parents are divorced) but we make an effort with his dad instead - you cant win them all and some mothers wont ever let you! So give up and be friends with the people in the family who you get along with :)
2006-10-24 19:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she makes your life miserable then cut off all ties until she can support your decisions if life. I am not happy with the decisions my daughter is making, but I don't try to make her life any harder than it already is. If she wants to be in your life bad enough, she will back off. You won't have to. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-24 19:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by ladyrebel4real 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband did the right thing. She should realise that her son married you and he is commited to you. She has no say in your relationship. Maybe she will come around in time when she realises that she can't come between you. I think your husband is wonderful for standing up to her and for choosing you. She sounds as if she needs professional help. Why don't you contac Dr. Phil on television?
2006-10-24 19:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its his mother, so it should be his decision , if he feels its best to cut off ties then let him, support either way he wants to go with it, as it is his mother..
otherwise just be happy.. if he is ok with things the way they are then let it go.. other wise ur just asking for the drama which makes u no better then her..
2006-10-24 19:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it is a good thing he is sticking my you and not by her. When people get married they are suppose to leave their parents and cling to their spouse. One day she may wake up alone and see the error of her ways, but until then, there is no reason for yall to be miserable. It was his choice to leave her, so I would leave it up to him. Sounds like you got a good husband. Good luck.
2006-10-25 04:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep her out of ur life, if ur happy let it stay the way it is, or u could give her visiting conditions, like u can come c us if u stop bitching or what ever she does, especialy if u have or are planning on having kids, if she keeps it up show her the door.
good luck 2 u both.{ u & hubby that is}
2006-10-24 19:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by imyagoodluckcharm 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a monster in law.....moving out was the right thing to do...why stay wid someone who is trying to ruin your life...i wud have done the same.
2006-10-24 20:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by roddur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋