she is so confused they have been together since 2 years and she lost her virginity a year ago with him and this is the first time he askes for that
and when she refused he threatened her and said that he can get it by force if he wants to and now he is completly an another person what should she do
she cant leave him cuz she adores him
2006-10-24 19:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't do it..leave him...he'll rape her..
2006-10-24 19:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by annann 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While it isn't right for him to threaten to rape her, if he's been a nice guy to date you may want to investigate what has suddenly made him "crazy". Sometimes people say stupid stuff when their angry, so I'd say go to the root of the problem.
Why would he want unprotected sex?
1)He wants to have a kid. Unlikely, but worth discussing if this is the case.
2)He doesn't feel that she trusts him. If they are together that long and trust each other, why do you need a device primarily intended for preventing STDs and pregnancy. There are other birth control options.
3) Condoms lessen a guys plesure and they limit spontinaity. Maybe he just wants to have sex in the morning without having to find a rubber. A couple is responsible to work together to keep sex interesting, so maybe he took this as her trying to limit his pleasure even after he asked nicely.
4) Maybe this is just a control thing for one or both of them. It is something he dislikes mildly, but really hates the fact that she holds on to it so strongly. Or she doesn't really care that much, but it is something she can control in the relationship.
She could go on the pill or she can allow him to have unprotected sex when she's not ovulating once or twice a month. If STDs are an issue they can go get tested together. Whatever it is, they should really discuss the cause of this frustration.
I take the "I can get it by force if I wanted to" comment as saying: you trust me enough to be with me this long, I'm asking nicely, why don't you trust me here. I'd be kind of pissed if I were in his shoes, but I wouldn't threaten rape. No means no, but no doesn't mean that I have to like it. Don't let sex kill a good relationship, talk out a solution instead of letting the guy steam.
2006-10-25 03:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should try a little of that adoration on herself and get the hell out of a relationship with a dangerous sadistic controlling son of a bithc before she gets seriously damaged!
Tell her to find someone to adore that wouldn't even consider threatening her in any way whatsoever. There are plenty of nice guys that would appreciate some adoration and PROTECTED CONSENSUAL sex.
2006-10-25 02:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was all good until force was mentioned. She needs to get the hell outta there as quick as possible before she gets raped and pregnant. This kind of fella wants the power of making a baby, but none of the love or responsibility that goes with it. She should consider using some form of birth control, however, in case she isn't strong enough to leave him. Or for in case that she leaves him then gets back together with him and has some of that wild make-up sex. Or in case she leaves him and he goes nutz and rapes her.
2006-10-25 02:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by pair-a-docs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has serious problems -- if he has threatened to use force that is dangerous nearly as dangerous as unprotected sex
if he wants it let him get the full screening for all of the STD's herpies warts etc
but the threats of violence will probably increase so it would be best to leave
2006-10-25 02:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a horrible and abusive guy. she needs to leave that relationship. she deserves so much better. a guy like that will end of giving her an STD, an incurable one. just imagine how many other women he has treated that way and probably had unprotected sex with. he's disgusting. your friend must lack self esteem to stay with a guy like this. as her friend you need to help build her confidence and help her see that she can be in a better relationship with a different man.
2006-10-25 02:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by ca belle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she should have never had sex with him in the 1st place b 4 marriage....this would have removed her from this dilema...what surprise me though,despite all these warnings out there about unprotected sex,the dangers involved, she is confused about what 2 do...have her call the H.I.V hotline,if she is still confused then u need to find new friends,ignorances like that is contagious
2006-10-25 02:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by PJ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a creep and she should get rid of him. If not she needs to keep using protection. He may be the only one she's been with but who knows who he's been with.
2006-10-25 02:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She better leave him before that adoration turns to hate!
2006-10-25 02:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cared about and respected her he would not threaten her like that! He threatened to rape her. That's a crime. She needs to dump his *** now!
2006-10-25 02:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..
tell u'r friend not worry abt not using any security...
enjoy sex with him & afterwords go for toilet...
or tell her when they are at the end of organism pull out the panny... and suck outside.... may not be that pleasure for that boy... but u'r friend will..... anyways it's depends how they are good in oral or forplay... (well, i can make a girl pleasured without insurting panny) i think they should go for a better & long forplay before sex.......
regards,
Sanjeev.............
2006-10-25 03:01:58 · answer #11 · answered by sanjeev 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋