My friend boy friend and her have been together for 4 years and now she is pregant and he claims is not his so now she is sleep in my bed i have been taklin to her for the past 2 hours how can i be there 4 her as a friend and what should i tell her to do??
2006-10-24 18:56:06 · 10 answers · asked by Gina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
After she has the baby, she should take a paternity test. If it comes back that he is the father, she should sue his azz for child support.
2006-10-24 19:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen. You really can't tell her what to do, that is her decision. But she does need to get a paternity test as soon as it becomes avaliable for her so she can find out if the baby is his or not. He may just be scared about being a father and the best way out of it is to say its not his. I've seen it so many times. My sons dad claims him, but also 3 others that arent his. Just be there for her and listen to her. Help her in anyway possible.
2006-10-24 18:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some trust issues if he doesnt think that the baby is his. It just doesnt sound like a healthy realtionship especially after 4 yrs and he doubts and or denies this baby.The baby deserves a good life. She is better going it alone with support from family and friends like yourself. If you can be involved with the pregnancy with her, like reading pregnancy mags and books together, shopping for stuff anf even going to pre natal classes.
2006-10-24 19:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me tell you that you are a good friend who is there when she needs you. It was good that you were there talking to her and trying to console her. If I'm hearing you right, your friend's boyfriend is claiming that the child is not his. Right? Well can't she demand him to take some sort of paternity test?
2006-10-24 19:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds scared..they been together for four years yet he doesnt trust her? Thats his fault, hes just acting dumb! All you can do is just be therte for her right now, listen and hopfully the guy will come around. He sounds like a dead beat already
2006-10-24 19:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by LADII 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a dirt bag. if she knows with out a doubt that it is his then he needs to take responsibility for it. tell her that you will be there no matter what. and if he is still acting like this 9 months from now then she don't need him. Guh i hate guys like that. anyway she is probably better off with out him anyway and the guilty dog barks first. if he says it is not his then he has been the one unfaithful. tell your friend i will remember her in my prayers
2006-10-24 19:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep being there for her. she really needs you right now! as far as the jerk, wait til the baby is born and have a paternity test done... then nail his a** to the wall for child support, IF he keeps being a jerk.
2006-10-24 19:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Karen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my !!! u got me afraid too ! but dont worry ! i think it's very late 4 answering but tell her : dont be afraid of that .
u know : your friend and her bf can marry togheter and and then they wont have any problem !
2006-10-24 19:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by sadako302 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to her is the best --- and also recommend that she talk to her boyfriend -- he has issues and need to face them
2006-10-24 19:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he might be avoiding his responsibility
2006-10-24 19:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Old Al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋