If a friend treats you differently,does it matter how they treat someone else better?

Question

Morning all,

I have a question here that I'm trying to prove a point to a person that I know who says that it doesn't matter how a person treats others it's how they treat me. If a friend treats you differently,does it matter how they treat someone else better,when it comes to that friendship ?

IE: I've (myself 29 now) been friends with Brendan Miller (who is 20 now) since mid/late 2002. Last year he and I would we'd hang out doing friends stuff, talk. He has been good,listener,he'd take me to the game shops in town when I was unable to get a lift, Before what happened in June and May, it was well before Christmas holiday last year. Brendan would talk to me online, call me on the phone, hang out a Rocky’s Pizzeria. After Christmas (the beginning of this year) for no reason (well before all this),all that stopped. All the while this didn't happen to anyone else that I know that he is friends with too.

Answer 1

The reason might lay within your age difference. He might see you as a more mature grown up individual and would rather hang out with people 2 year older and/or 2 years younger. Don't take this personally but I think it's more of an age issue with him more than it is with you.

Please don't get hurt by this, it's just the way with the social norm.

Answer 2

Hi there...
Life can suck sometimes can't it. Maybe one of his other "mates" has said something to him in jest about hanging out with an "older woman." I don't mean anything by that, but you know what young guys are like, smart a**es. Guys value their mates opinions very highly, even if they've only just met them and he has had other friends (ie. you) for longer. The "male" opinion will win him over and over again. It's a sad fact of life. It'll take a little while for him to realise what a great friendship he had with you, but he will realise it eventually. I know that doesn't help how you feel in the meantime, but if he can just "dump" you just like that, it's not worth the worry and heartache in the meantime.
If you find it too hard to wait, try asking him what the hell happened. He may open up, he may not, but it's worth the try.
Good luck, I hope this helped and I hope you can resolve this one way or the other.
Just remember, you are a beautiful person, no matter what, and there would be plently of people out there who appreciate you for you, and don't care what anyone else says :)

Answer 3

all of those words and the whole thing still doesnt make any sense

before all of what and what is he doing for the other person that he isnt doing for you?