Can anyone help, please?

Question

I have been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months now, and prior to a couple of days ago, she said she loves me. She just stopped, and I asked her does she still? She just says "I still like you." I've asked have I done something to upset her, or to cause this? She said," I don't know."--she meant it by the way. She says she still wants to go out with me, but I have no idea whatsoever if she will ever love me again, or if things will ever be the same again. Please help me, and tell me what this means.

Answer 1

go out sit down and talk to her --- she knows what has changed --- so get her to open up --- open up yourself

Answer 2

Oh I hear anxiety and insecurity about short communication on the matters of love. Love is a many splendid grace. You can love her in giving her space and let her know without accisation that you will give her some but you are confused in how she is commited to you. She may be interested in someone else. Detach yourself from her when asking if she just wants to be friends and date other people. That way it lays it out there because SHE knows you could find someone else to. Just say you need clarification. Know that you are worth bypassing any sillie games. Get everything out in the open...but gently.

Answer 3

You don't just stop loving someone. If she doesn't love you now she never did. It could mean a lot of things. Maybe she has met someone she is interested in, or she is just bored. Who knows? I would worry about how I felt and if I wanted to pursue this. She seems to be a little flighty.

Answer 4

mate-not a f**king clue! haha sorry hey. im thinkin if a chick said she loves me then suddenly doesnt nemore id give her the flick n jus b friends obviouy the relationship is goin downhill towards a brick wall-and gaining speed quickly. chalk it up as experience and move on more fish in the sea

Answer 5

It means she needs some space/time to find out if she really loves YOU, or if she just loves YOU because YOU love HER.

It is really important to both of you to find this out.

Respect her wishes.

If she is your b'sherit (Hebrew, for "destined one"), she will come closer to you; if not, it's important to know sooner, than later, so that you can both get to know other people.

Don't get too close, too soon--with anyone. If you date, make the date no less than three days in advance.

The way you accept this could make the difference between her returning to you, or being glad she left you.

Remember, love isn't lust or need or possessiveness, or jealousy. Your loved one should be your best friend. First, you must see if you can put space/time between you without either of you losing interest in the other. If not, better to be friends. Friends is good, too. Many people have remained good friends after they discovered that didn't really want to be romantic about each other.

The national bird in one of the Central American countries is the Toucan. The Toucan appears on the largest denomination of their money; so, naturally everyone wants the Toucan. They have a saying, "You can't be EVerybody's Toucan." In other words, you don't need EVeryone, you just need one. And you are in the process of finding out whose Toucan you will be. Someone will want you over all the others. That's the one you have to be patient, and be on the lookout for. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or with her. The whole point in/of dating is to investigate one another's character. If you find something that might drive you up the wall to live with the rest of your life, better to keep that one as a friend, and keep looking for that life partner. Whatever might be the thing about you that bugs her, could be the very thing another girl is looking for in a guy. Don't try to change each other. Just keep looking for the right one. In fact, DON'T look. Spend the time, better, improving yourself in every way you can--physically, spiritually and intellectually.

Be patient. Your b'sherit is out there. Don't make a mistake.

You both sound like really great people. Give yourselves time to find out who God wants for you. It's really awful to spend you life with the wrong person.

You may want to ask her what, if anything turned her off about you, so that you don't make the same mistake with your next girlfriend. (Maybe just the thought of you having a next girlfriend will be enough to turn her around.)

The following is a prayer for your detachment (love isn't attachment):

Prayer for Detachment

Suffer me, O my God, to draw nigh unto Thee, and to abide within the precincts of Thy court, for remoteness from Thee hath well-nigh consumed me. Cause me to rest under the shadow of the wings of Thy grace, for the flame of my separation from Thee hath melted my heart within me. Draw me nearer unto the river that is life indeed, for my soul burneth with thirst in its ceaseless search after Thee. My sighs, O my God, proclaim the bitterness of mine anguish, and the tears I shed attest my love for Thee.
I beseech Thee, by the praise wherewith Thou praisest Thyself and the glory wherewith Thou glorifiest Thine own Essence, to grant that we may be numbered among them that have recognized Thee and acknowledged Thy sovereignty in Thy days. Help us then to quaff, O my God, from the fingers of mercy the living waters of Thy loving-kindness, that we may utterly forget all else except Thee, and be occupied only with Thy 49 Self. Powerful art Thou to do what Thou willest. No God is there beside Thee, the Mighty, the Help in Peril, the Self-Subsisting.
Glorified be Thy name, O Thou Who art the King of all Kings!
—Bahá’u’lláh

Answer 6

girls are weird, you must have done something to make her stop saying that she loves you. find out what it is. my opinion-she's cheating on you

Answer 7

dude i dont know did you do something? maybe she just needs a little space

Answer 8

My opinion.. though you may not like it..She's found someone else

Answer 9

did you tell her u love her back? cuz if not maybe she felt rejected...