Me and my guy friend both just got out of a 3+ year long relationship...there is a 4 year age difference im 18 hes 22. 23 in dec.. ive known him for a long time. him and my ex are friends. hes not why i broke with my ex. He lives in NH im in ME. I drive up to see him almost every weekend. We hang out, go out, we said hooking up will happen and mean a lot when it does. He dont hook up every time...He says he really cares about me & that im an amazing girl & later down the road things will work out. & he can see himself being with me for a really long time..his parents never have liked a girl hes brought home, but they really enjoy having me around. He never says he doesnt want a relationship but he says hes single to his friends...I understand this,he wants his freedom/space/time. But do u really think it will ever work out? Am i wasting my time? I really like him, & love being around him. Should i do my own thing & wait for "down the road"?? the age difference i think is his big issue
2006-10-24 18:13:23 · 20 answers · asked by beautifulkay17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still a pup. Why think that every piece of tail is "the one"? Have fun and move on!!!
2006-10-24 18:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by wildraft1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... im pretty much in the same boat with you at the moment. But, the difference is, the man that im kinda seeing is more honest. He said im a great girl and he likes to spend time with me but he doesnt want to get attached yet as he feels there's something missing - as in he's still with me while he's waiting for a better girl comes along. And when it happens, he definitely is going away.
So for you, what you really have to think is, how he really feels about you. If you dont think he likes you as much as you do, then i think you are wasting your time. But if you think you can make him deeply and madly in love with him, then go for it. People say you have to wait for the greater things.
I'd say you do the same and look around you, maybe you'll find someone better and appreciate you more, or maybe not. Mybe that will drive him crazy and want u more (as in just for himself),You never know.
And no, I dont think 22/23 yrs old man is that mature anyway.
2006-10-25 01:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by tiiista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you go with the flow. Just be friends for now and see how things go for awhile. Afterall, both of you just got out of a long relationship. Sounds like neither one of you are ready to get into another relationship. Both of you need some time as a single person so that way you won't be rebouncing on one another. A long lasting relationship all started with friendship... I won't say you're wasting time...b/c you both like each other however I don't think now is the right time for the two of you to hook up. Yes you should do your own thing for now. have some before getting hook up with another guy.
2006-10-25 01:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is telling you he likes being a friend--with benefits. He is stepping around any kind of commitment to you. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. But life is too short to wait for a maybe. Age is not the factor. He wants to play the field.Let him go.
2006-10-25 01:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by moose on the loose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you travel to see him every weekend. Stay home, let him come to you. Yes, you are wasting your time. If he wants you, let him come to you.
And by the way Friends with Benefits is just a way for guys to have sex and no committment - don't fall for that crap. Have a modicum of self respect!
2006-10-25 01:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are enjoying his company and the relationship is not causing any damage why not enjoy yourself. As long as you know that this is not a real relationship. Its just benefits. If you think you can handle it go for it.
2006-10-25 01:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sleeping with someone with out the benefit of genuine love can be mentally devastating in the long run. I personally think when we sleep with some one and there are no strings it leaves us lonelier and even more empty.
2006-10-25 01:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by daerhtaybgnignah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be enjoying the free sex. It's the perfect relationship for him. He has no deep emotions invested. Likely, his feelings will not change. Look for someone that loves you, and doesn't just use you for his needs.
2006-10-25 01:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tanyaqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your time! move on! if he doesnt claim your as his girlfriend especially in front of his boys your just a booty call! Your worth more than that! Find a man that win treasure u and love u like the treasure u r!
2006-10-25 01:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by 2tootwosexy4ya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Friends with benefits is worth it.. IF you have no feelings for the other person..If you care for the person, in my opinion it's not a healthy relationship to be in.
2006-10-25 01:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is only a number , but does he really love you?? you have to give it some time , he knows your ex and sometimes the ex will not always understand about your new man , just be patient..
2006-10-25 01:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋