As of the last 6 months him and I have gone thru a particularly rough spot in our relationship (in April, I found out that around this time-October- of last year while we were still together, he started talking to other girls...and not about coming over to play scrabble if you get my drift) Now that that time of year is approaching again and bad memories are coming back, I feel myself drifting farther away from him. I don't want to break up with him for fear of making a mistake (not to mention fear of being alone since I only have one other good friend) and as selfish as it sounds, fear of having to move back in with Mom and Dad (to me, a better choice would be living in my car). What should I do? I've thought about breaking up with him and then (to combat my living with parents gripe) transferring to an out of town college full-time or taking a break from school and obtaining a full-time job that would allow me to have my own place...What's a girl to do?
2006-10-24 18:10:09 · 4 answers · asked by persian_princezz777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need some alone time and you need some space. That in and of itself is reason enough to move out. After all, you are not married and it sounds like you question his ability to make the same commitment to you that you have made to him. I'm sure moving back home would be difficult if not impossible - mom and dad are probably not that delighted that you moved in with this guy in the first place. But, it might not be a bad place to land temporarily until you get your bearings and your emotions can be sorted out. Then, find a place of your own. If you moved directly out of your home and into a place with this guy and that was your first attempt at independence, you haven't really given yourself the chance to grow emotionally. You need that. You need to gain some self confidence and a larger network of friends. What's a girl to do? A girl has got to become a woman before she can be certain about what she wants and what she needs...in a boyfriend, in a man, or out of life in general. It's time to do it for yourself. Get going.
2006-10-24 18:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trust is gone and you should be right behind it!!! you need a plan. try saving up some money to get your own place. if this means getting a job and going back to your parents house then so be it. you have to swallow your pride or else you will continue to be miserable. you'll make other friends but running away isn't the answer. . don't quit school. you can work full time and go to college full time. i know cause i do it. it's hard (i only get 3 hours of sleep before my first class) but i do it and you can too. pray and ask for strength.
2006-10-24 18:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! it is only you and you alone who knows what is best for you and your feelings, no one can control them except you! and you alone so just do the honouarble thing sit down and talk to him over the issue and sort yourselves out if he is playing you no need for you to stay with him and if he wants to stay with you let him show you that he wants to. Dont be afraid of making the right decisions in life as life is a risk. Girl if he doesnt deserve you givr him the boot dont be afraid of making the wrong decision coz the right one might just be around the acorner from you.
2006-10-24 18:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by zinja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how you feel and if you aren't comfortable with the relationship, you shouldn't stay just for "room and board" ... that's equivalent to (sorry) prostitution. Do whatever it takes to support yourself (legally) if you don't want to move back in with mom and dad. Only then can you hold your head high. good luck.
2006-10-24 18:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Plato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋