ok i need help what can i do i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and im thinking of some one else help?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years i love him so much i really do but theres this guy that i can not stop thinking abou't when i am with my boyfriend i'am not like all the way with him my mind is on the other guy to please be very seriouse about your answers please

Answer 1

It is natural to think of others after you are with someone that long. I have been married 4 years and still have thoughts of other guys daily! That doesn't mean I would go through with it .
If you love him, stay with him and don't cheat on him. If you decide you really don't love him, then maybe its time to move on and you aren't ready for a long term commitment.
The key is to "look but don't touch " :-)

Answer 2

I was in almost the same exact situation. It's natural to look at other people, but it's completely different if you can't stop thinking about this other guy. Maybe you and your boyfriend need some time apart for you to figure out what you really want. There has to be a reason you are feeling this way about someone else. If there is a possibilty that you are just lusting over this other guy and that it will pass without you acting on it, then I would say to just let it go, but if there are actual feelings there than I would break away from your boyfriend. It isn't fair to him or to you.
Good Luck

Answer 3

I know regardless of being in a relationship, whether it be a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife, we will always be able to acknowledge other people's beauty/attractiveness, but I really do think that if you truly do love your boyfriend as you say, then it would be merely that, acknowledging someone else's looks/personality. Maybe it's just the way that I am, but even though there are people I can say "Yes, she is pretty", I can honestly say that she will never rival my girlfriend, and it makes me that much happier that I am with her. Love is made out to be this complicated thing, I think it's a lot more innocent and genuine than we make it out to be.

Answer 4

Go with your heart but be careful. If you ditch your b/f and figure out a year later that you want to get back with him, he may have already moved on. Just talk with your b/f and tell him that maybe yall should take a break so that yall can be sure that yall are what each other really wants before it goes any further. 5 years is a long time. I always remember the saying "the grass isn't always greener on the other side." good luck

Answer 5

You are probably attracted to the other guy. I think you need to find out if you really love your boyfriend. And also, is the other guy attracted to you? If you still love your boyfriend very much and if that guy is not attracted to you, then it's easy, just forget about him.

Answer 6

You're normal. I've been married for 11 yrs. I think of what it would be like to "be with" other guys I've met and found attractive. The important thing is that you don't act on those feelings unless you want to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Answer 7

Listen here! You are only lusting for the other man! If you truly love you man you need to clear your mind of anything or one that may cause a disturbance in your relationship. In the end you'll be sorry if you tread in troubled waters!

Answer 8

Obviously you like the other guy. However, you can do 2 things. Tell your boyfriend how you feel and move on or keep it to yourself and switch to constantly thinking about your boyfriend.

Answer 9

sounds like u want 2 bf but if u jus want 1 try to think at least 1 nasty bad reason why u shouldnt like the other dude u've been thinkin bout

Answer 10

It's over, Babe. You don't love him so much (you really don't) if you're thinking about someone else (especially) when you're with him. Give up the fight.